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Date: Dec 31, 2006 09:37
In message <145fp2d37o21th7dkfbdjnq9ijvuc92s1f@ 4ax.com>, John Russell
jrrconsulting.co.uk> writes
>Then from the same perspective - trying to work with a "problem child" is
>not the same as bending over backwards for him.
>
I knew that you would have had some similar experiences.
>Isn't it funny how often little sods come in twos? I had two little sods
>once whose behaviour, coming into the Pack, was awful. The other Leaders
>were for chucking them out, but it was me who didn't want to give up on
>them. What is critical is that they themselves have the option of going or
>staying - but they must know that if they stay it's under your rules, not
>theirs. We adopted a clear line - if you spoil things for others you sit
>out - and enforced it.
That to me is the main thing, if you say it will be so then you must
stick to it don't negotiate or turn a blind eye as they and everyone
else will notice that you don't really mean it. It has to become black
and white so never threaten anything you not intend to follow through
on.
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