ume$h wrote:

It is possible, but your question opens many avenues of enquiry and
begs the questions: what is wrong with being intellectual and can you
be too intellectual. and how do we measure the strength or otherwise of
our ambitions, because in order to succeed in life we need a certain
amount of ambition I presume. Can we break down your question and ask
how can I be relaxed? The answer will be different for different
people, for me it means having a certain amount of self-confidence when
associating with others, which implies an element of intellectual
awareness : being able to respond to the unexpected or simply having
the courage to enunciate the honest phrase "I don't know!" I never
worry what people think about me, I rather like my eccentricities, that
appears to assist my easy-going manner and also assists with the
relaxing. Allow others to make of themselves what they will and respond
according to your ability to hold up your end without falling flat on
your face and always leave an escape route for an argument getting out
of your ability to control it by saying something like "I must defer to
your superior knowledge!" That invariably leaves your opponent stone ...