At the beginning of this year one of my friend's husband passsed
away. They were a very nice and loving couple. He truly loves her
and the children. He died of a car accident. Ever since my friend
has been very lonely. Many thought that she would remarry right away,
but ever since her husband passed away, she has never date anyone.
Few men have called her but she refused to go out with them because
she is not ready or doesn't want to date anyone.

Recently she called me and said there is a guy who is not hmong, he is
a middle east man, who a friend of her introduced her to him. This
guy asked her out but she refused. Now, he is asking her out again.
He said he just wanted to get to know her and that's all. So, my
friend called me and asked me should she go out with this guy or not?

What do you think she should do? Go or not go?

Sorry to hear about your friend's situation.

Kuv xav tias mus los kuj tsis ua cas thiab, yog tias nws txiav txim
siab mus. It depends where they're gonna go - movie, eat out, where?
Txhob lam mus nrog luag haus dej haus cawv nawb, tsam luag lam ua lim
hiam ces thaum ntawd muaj teeb meem rau yus thiab.

Txawm yog hmoob thiab tsis yog los yeej muaj cov neeg uas zoo zoo
thiab. Yog luag nyiam thiab yeej hlub yus tiag tiag thiab hlub yus
cov menyuam tiag tiag ces why not, yuav los kuj zoo thiab. Tabsis yog
yus ho xav tias yuav tsis yuav txiv lawm es cia ua ib leej niam rau
cov menyuam xwb los kuj yog ib qho zoo thiab. I have seen many hmong
women who decided not to get married after their husband passed away,
lawv yeej tseem nrog lawv cov menyuam nyob thiab ua ib leej niam uas
tsim txiaj rau lawv cov menyuam tseem zoo tshaj li ib txhia uas mus
yuav txiv ib tug dhau ib tug mas hau yau...tej menyuam los txaj muag,
thiab lub teb lub chaw los ntxub. Tell your friend not to do that.

Qhov kuv txhawj me ntsis ces vim nws ho yog neeg middle east. Nothing
against that, but kuv yeej tseem prefer yuav yus tug hmoob vim tsis
xav kom cov menyuam tu kev phoojywg ntawm lawv haiv neeg. By the way,
how many children does your friend have?

Nkauj Hmoob Lis, thanks for your concern. She has 4 children. 16,
14, 11, and 8.

Wife and mom,

Koj twb yog "wife" & "mom" ces koj yeej paub zoo lawm, tabsis kuv xav
li no. Kuv mas xav tias qhov zoo tshaj thiab qhov uas peb cov
txivneej ntshaw tshaj ces yeej tsis xav kom mus yuav dua lwm tus txiv
lawm nawb. Yeej yuav nyuab ntag, tabsis cov menyuam twb loj lawm
thiab, lawv yeej txawj pab lawv lawm, ces ua ib siab nrog cov menyuam
xwb.

Tabsis yog hais tias yeej yuav nyob tsis taus li... no ces yuav los
yuav. Tabsis kuv agree li Nkauj Hmoob Lis hais thiab, kuv yeej tseem
xav kom yuav hmoob xwb, yog tias muaj tus txaus siab. Kuv mas cia li
tsis nyiam cov niag neeg uas pheej tuaj yuav peb cov pojniam hmoob mus
ua lawv pojniam kiag li nawb. Khib yus tas tas lau!!!!!!!!

wife..

kuv pom li no....

nws twb txom nyem txaus lawm....tseem yuav txom nyem ntxiv thiab
lov?? hais li no rau nws...cia nws mam txhais seb yog li cas...

yaweh

wifeandmom,

It appears she is still young. Life remains a long road ahead for
her. Does she want to walk the road alone? All persons sometimes
want a warm body next to theirs. Hmoob hais tias, "tejzaum yus ua ib
tug npau suav los yus xav kom muaj ib tug ho nrog mloog yus piav yus
tus npau suav thiab."

The decision is hers to make. IF she isn't ready, then it's not the
right time. When the right time comes, she will know.

Marry outside your own race considering a second class citizen. If
she accept that then go ahead.

Has ntawm txivneej saab tuaj, yog moog ces yeej kawg yuav tau muab
paum rua puab ua. Yog xaavpaub xwb, yeej tsi taag has kuas nrug nwg
moog uake rua ib qho twg le.

Has ntawm quaspuj saab tuaj, xaav tau nkub nrug yug has lug, tamsis
tsi xaav pub P rua puab ua. Yog le ntawd tsi txhob has qhov moog le.

Phua huv nruabnraab rua ob tog. Txivneej yeej nyam es txhajle qhev
tau lub qhovncauj has. Quaspuj yeej nyob tsi taug ib leeg es txhaj
xaav saib yuav ua zaaj twg.

Le mej obpeb tug twb has lawm, yog zuv mivnyuas kuas puab muaj nam ces
yuav qhuav sab los kaavlam nua ces txhob thaab leejtwg le. Yog has
tas qhuav sab hwv es yuav moog nua ces xaiv tug yug nyam tsaiv. Tsi
le ntawd ce yug coj luas txug ib ntog kev hos tsi pub rua ua ces nwg
haj tseem yuav nyuab. Yog has tas nwg muaj lub sab "ua xwb tsi yuav"
leejtwg los tau tsuav ob tug tuabneeg laug yeem xwb.

Nyeem kuas sab kaaj nawb.

Mej pheej txawjx qheb phaaj yeeb lab vog ua rua peb cov nam quav yeeb
lujx nuav uv tsi taug le es... hahahahaha...

Txhua yaam ces suav dlawg yeej has taag lawm. Kuv tsuas ntxiv miv
ntsiv "quav" rua xwb. Nyaj mej yuav ntsib dlua hab pum dlua lug lawm
tas puab cov neeg middle east mas puab le kev cai nruj heev. Puab tsi
nyam coj lwm haiv neeg lug ua puab tej quas puj permanently le. Thaus
txug caij rov qaab ces puab yuav coj puab cov mivnyuas rov moog puab
teb puab chaw tawm sis puab yuav muab yug pov tseg. Taab txawm yog
puab yuav yug hab coj yug moog los ntshai yug yuav moog coj tsi taug
puab txuj cai kws tseem saib quaspuj qeg heev.

MS

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