yawv, koj tsis uas zoo saib tsam tus mejkoob yog Zhen nes. hahahahahaha.

tswvyim..

zhen wb mas..qhaub thaj heev...kuv xav mas...lam yog nws no, ntshe kuv
twb tsi txaj muaj li no

vimlhlub...

kuv xav mas niam txiv tog vauv yeej paub tus mejkoob zoo....temsis
thaum kuv nug niam txiv tog ntxhais mas...lawd tias "nag hmo peb nug
nws na, nws tias nws yog "xeem tshiab" no xwb..."

qhov tseeb, yog nws tsi paub los, tshoob kos yoog tau kawg...tamsim no
peb ua tshoob peb tsi zais ruj zais hneev lawm...peb ua ncaj ncaj lawm
xwb...tus hais tsi tau cawv los, peb tsi yuam lawm thiab...temsis
txheej txheem tseem muaj xwb...temsis qhov kuv xav paub mas, vim yog
everyone "kub kub" lamw, es thiaj ua tau li no....vim li no, kuv xav
paub tias, leejtwg ua txhaum li cas lawm...vim kuv xij xav tias, niag
yaweh tseem hluas es lawd saib tsi taus nws, lawd thiab ua li no rau
nws....xij xav tias "niam txiv tog ntxhais" los phem heev, mejkhhooob
thiaj khiav thiab...

yaweh

Tsuj,

Leejtwg ua txhaum li cas lawm? Yog txhaum ces txhua tus tau ua txhaum
lawm. Yog tsis txhaum, tsis muaj leej twg ua txhaum li. Yog vim li
cas thiaj li hais li ntawd?

1. Yawg me koob tsis kam ua, nej sij yuav kom nws ua. Nws twb paub
tias yog nws ua ces yuav txhaum rau nws, nej tsis kam lees paub qhov
ntawd.

2. Koj twb ntseeg tias ua li koj ua thiaj li yog txheej txheem,
tabsis tamsim no koj ho pom tias koj ua txhaum lawm... tejzaum koj
yeej ua txhaum me ntsis lawm tiag os...It is said that you can hide
(the truth) from everyone, BUT you can never hide (it) from yourself.
Maybe you knew your action weren't truly clean...therefore, the guilty
feeling. Being young is no fault. Failure to do the right thing is.
You knew there was a right thing to do, yet you did not do it.

vim hlub...

cia kuv hais li no...seb puas nkag kis...lets say kuv mus ua
mejkoob....lawd yuav kom pe, kuv tsi kam...lawd rub rooj los, kuv tsi
kam, lawd hais nqi mis nqi no kuv tsi kam, lawd ua tshoob kuv tsi
kam.....this is an exxagerartion....temiss this same reasoning is the
saem reasoning that he used on me.

lets say my reasoning is "kuv yog moob tshab lawm..tej no kuv tsi
ua"......so the question is, what exactly am i doing there in the
first place? twb tso kev dav rau nws...kom nws hais leejtwg los do it
for him in his place...temsis nws hais tias "tsi ua ces tsi ua xwb"...

yaweh

vim hlub..

by the way, qhia seb kuv txhaum li cas ma....that was the question

yaweh

tsujsuadl-- yog piav li koj hais mas kuv xav tias qhov teeb meem yog
"miscommunication" xwb. lawv tog tub twb yog cov mus coj kev cai
tshiab lawm. hnub lawv tuaj txog hmo friday ntawd kuv ntseeg hais
tias nej tog ntxhais thiab lawv tog tub cov mej koob sib to taub ces
tej zaum lawv twb yeej los zaum sib tham kom 2 tog muaj kev sib to
taub ua ntej hais rooj tshoob lawm. tog tub yeej los hais tias, lawv
yeej yog cov coj kev cai tshiab lawm ces lawv yeej txaus siab ho tuaj
nrog niam txiv txuas tshoob txuas kos kom tau tub tau ntxhais thiab
tau kev neej kev tsav, tab sis vim lawv coj kev cai tshiab lawm mas
tej kev cai ua dab lawv yuav tsis ua lawm, tej tej tej txheem txheem
cawv lawv yeej yuav haus no tag lawm. ces 2 tog twb yeej sib sib to
taub lawm. txog thaum los saib qaib ces tog tub yeej...

kwv..

kuv yeej pom li koj pom thiab....kuv thiaj li tias "thov koj mus
nrhiav leejtwg, tus twg los tau, xav kom lawd los rho xwb" no
ne...temsis nws ho ua tsi tau thiab....yog nws lam tias "kavxim, thov
koj rho, es xob xav li cas, vim kuv yeej rho tsi tau tiag" no ces, kuv
kam rho mas....temsis nws xij tias nws ua tsi tau xwb es kom peb ua
peb mus vim "tej no nws tsi tau kom peb ua" no ne....tsi tag li, nws
tias "nws twb tsi tuaj, yog lawd kom nws tuaj xwb" no ne...

temsis, qhov kuv xav paub mas, yog tias kuv yog nws, es koj ho yog
kuv, es lets exxagerate the whole thing to the reason of "kuv ua tsi
tau li koj ua" vim tias kuv yo ghmoob tshiab lawm.....txhais tau tias
(ua li kuv hais rau vimhlub), thov rooj los kuv tsi kam thov, koj rub
rooj los kuv tsi kaam, koj ntus lus nyiam lus kuv los kuv tsi kam, nce
saum rooj los kuv tsi kam....etc...es yog mus txog this level lawm
ne....?? and my only "excuse" is "kuv yog hmoob tshiab lawm....nej ua
nej, kuv tsi tau kom nej ua....nej kav tsij ua nej"...yog muaj li no
lawm no, txhais tau tias yog kuv ua kiag rau koj lawm no, koj ho xav
li cas? tsi tag li xwb, koj twb tsi tau xaus lus, kuv tseem tias "yog
nej ua li no, ces kuv tsi nyob alwm, kuv yauv mus tsev" no thiab?

Tsuj,

Wrong and right are perceptions...they are not absolutes. You may not
have done anything wrong, that is your perception. That mejkoob does
not want to do anything wrong. That's his perception.

By not following through a procedure that is well known to Hmoob
tshoob kos is a mistake...this is your perception. By not
understanding another's prohibition against "saib yaig" is a gross
insult...this is the mejkoob's perception.

Qhia seb koj txhaum li cas? You did not relent when the mejkoob said
"nws tsis ua li ntawd, tsis ua ces tsis ua xwb". True, you did ask
for a replacement, BUT to him, it is an insult. How would you have
felt if he had asked for you to be replaced?

Soft words can bend hard people, but harsh words will make soft people
unbendable.

vimhlub,

koj hais yog ler....temsis tshuav ib qho thiab....qhov koj hais mas
yog kev being "rigid" and it can be applied to both kuv thiab tus
mejkoob.

qhov kuv xav paub mas, yog tias kuv yog nws, es koj ho yog
kuv, es lets exxagerate the whole thing to the reason of "kuv ua tsi
tau li koj ua" vim tias kuv yo ghmoob tshiab lawm.....txhais tau
tias
thov rooj los kuv tsi kam thov, koj rub
rooj los kuv tsi kaam, koj ntus lus nyiam lus kuv los kuv tsi kam,
nce
saum rooj los kuv tsi kam....etc...es yog mus txog this level lawm
ne....?? and my only "excuse" is "kuv yog hmoob tshiab lawm....nej
ua
nej, kuv tsi tau kom nej ua....nej kav tsij ua nej"...yog muaj li no
lawm no, txhais tau tias yog kuv ua kiag rau koj lawm no, koj ho xav
li cas? tsi tag li xwb, koj twb tsi tau xaus lus, kuv tseem tias
"yog
nej ua li no, ces kuv tsi nyob alwm, kuv yauv mus tsev" no thiab?

tsujsuadl-- muaj tseeb, yog kuv yog tus mej koob ntawd no kuv yuav
hais li no rau koj lawm. aub.. hais li no rau koj tus ua txiv kav xim
lau, peb ces qhia ncaj ncaj rau koj ntag. peb yog cov coj kev cai
tshiab lawm es peb yeej twb sib tham ua ntej tau kev tso cai los ntawm
niam txiv hauv tsev no lawm hais tias peb yuav tsis ua tej kev cai
saib yaig no lawm. nej yuav saib los nej yeej meem saib nej, tab sis
peb ces yuav saib no ntag nawb. yog li thov koj ho zam txoj kev dav
pub rau peb thiab no lau. nws ho tsis hais li no tuaj rau koj thiab
nev puas yog. los yog nws yeej hais li thiab koj tham tsis tas xwb
mas haj...haj...haj... tso dag xwb.