> pebhmoobruam,
>
> There are couple ways that we could do to mess it up or better it.
> You see, if you are Hmong then you need to bind with Hmong custom and
> follow it.  If you considered yourself as American then do the
> American way.  One thing that I would like to assure you is that if
> you are not afraid of being shame and lose face then anything is
> possible, however, as many of SCHers are moving two steps forward and
> one step back is that we could not get rid of these customs.
>
> Perhaps you should disclose yourself publicly so whoever doesn't want
> you to be their yawgcua should considered to give a very expensive
> advice to their daughters now...hahahah
>
> kuamemiab