Hnub,

Not everyone can be rescued. Sometimes, it's best to let what will be
-- be. Delaying the pain will make it worst for everyone involved.
Muab saib los ces, nej niag nephew ntawd:

1. He is suffering from depression or some sort of mental illness.
If he refuses help, then really, no one can help him. Only he can
help himself. Leave him to sort through his problems. It may take a
while for him to do that.

2. He is gay. Seriously. I have been in the sexual health field for
most of my life and that's the "coming out" issue that some married
gay individuals faced. The reason he doesn't have any hluas nkauj is
because he is not attracted to women. He originally thought marriage
will make him "normal", but it eventually "killed" him because he
realizes that marriage can never make him be what he "naturally" is
not.

3. He is on drug. He may be on some kind of depressant which makes
him depressed and have no motivation to partake in life.

I would say that if he wants to divorce his wife, let it be. His wife
deserves better and he deserves "happiness". It appears both of them
are nice people who do not want to hurt other people, but being
"forced" to live in a dead-end relationship hurts more than it helps
them, their children, or anyone else. They both deserve better. They
both deserve happiness. Let the "divorce" be a mutually beneficial
decision and stop hanging on to something that is dead. Cia nkawv ib
tug txav tawm ntawm ib tug kev es cia nkawv txo nkawv lub nra hnyav
hnyav os mog.

Let them live and not die a slow death.