I guess this may be a bit of a cop-out answer, but can you get someone
who *can* find the rhythm to help you? Maybe count it out with you?
There are some other suggestions here:
http://www.dance-forums.com/showthread.php?t=230&highlight=Master+Salsa+Dancing
I remember that when I first started dancing salsa, the basic step
seemed a little disappointing. There was so much going on in the
music, and yet the basic was so simple. (As though I was ready then to
dance to everything happening in the music--something I can't do now
for that matter!) Somehow you need to find the basic structure in the
music and recognize that the other layers are built on that.
One obvious suggestion is to try listening to a lot of salsa. Even
putting it on in the background will help you absorb the rhythm by
osmosis.
