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Group: nashville.general · Group Profile
Author: KDKD Date: Jan 2, 2007 22:45
On Jan 2, 4:03 pm, jakdedert bellsouth.net> wrote:
>> Counseling is tough for an "old school" rub some dirt on it kind of guy, but
>> I'm sure you are right.Yeah, well...'counseling' is vague term. It needn't have to be from a
> shrink with a couch and receptionist. Could be a minister, a
> service-widow support group or even a trusted friend who had worked
> through something similar.
I have done a lot of reading about grief, and I have yet to find any
kind of "counseling" that has been proven to work. Different ways of
grieving work for different people but, in general, that old truism
holds merit: "Time heals all wounds." Although people may never get
over certain traumas, they almost all normally hurt less over time.
(I've known quite a few parents whose children have died and, as
horrible as that is, they eventually heal enough to go on with life.
In fact, I spoke with one woman whose daughter had died at age 21 and,
20 years later, she told me it was not the greatest of her life traumas
-- she had one bigger.) If someone can't seem to get over a loss /
trauma , then he is probably in clinical depression and need
medication.
-KD
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