marika wrote:

BUT...I did not really speak english growing up...got most of it from
tv and books. and if I saw the word nappy or heard it I never hooked on
to what it meant, and never heard it "colorized"

I mean, I might have read it in a Mark Twain Book, but never thought
twice about it as I did not think it was anything but a poetic way of
describing someone's hair. I did not know it had a negative value, nor
that it was in common use for black hair. same thing if I read say
Cleaver or Soul on Ice or whatever. The word just did not impart
itself as a word with negative value because it was not used in my
common everyday existence

I dated black guys in college and later in workforce. I just don;t
remember any of them ever mentioning "nappy hair". Well everyone
belonged or wanted to pretend to belong to the panthers, and everyone
had fros. Then ten years later everyone had cornrows. Up North, black
pride was cool. Our court system had black judges. No one used
negative terms about themselves because they were proud about
themselves. some claimed they had a Huxtable existence and went to
ballet and theater and stuff like that every saturday when little. we
are talking about the 50s and 60s. Sometimes you were treated to a
discussion, allowing you an inside view, of what they thought was
discrimination. AND YOU LEARNED FROM THIS. But they did not generally
use derogatory terms or stuff like that about themselves or other
blacks. So the nappy thing was totally new to me when I moved here.

mk5000

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