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Author: abrokenangelabrokenangel Date: Jul 10, 2007 16:49
kinda long...you are warned....
ok this is stupid and petty especially since the people in question are
33 (myself) and 48..i work with a woman named susan..she is very sweet,
never says anything bad about anything or anyone and is very passive
personality wise....very unlike me....
ok here's the deal..a few weeks ago she got all offended by my language
in the department..i used the words mine and my, or "i got"...other
people use it..they say everything i have is out on the shelf...but i
use it and its a problem....ok so i watch my mouth...i was a big girl
and apologized for offending her...even though i didn't see it as a
valid complaint...
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Author: AshenSoulsAshenSouls Date: Jul 11, 2007 06:10
abrokenangel wrote:
> kinda long...you are warned....
>
> ok this is stupid and petty especially since the people in question are
> 33 (myself) and 48..i work with a woman named susan..she is very sweet,
> never says anything bad about anything or anyone and is very passive
> personality wise....very unlike me....
>
> ok here's the deal..a few weeks ago she got all offended by my language
> in the department..i used the words mine and my, or "i got"...other
> people use it..they say everything i have is out on the shelf...but i
> use it and its a problem....ok so i watch my mouth...i was a big girl
> and apologized for offending her...even though i didn't see it as a
> valid complaint...
It's one thing to try to keep the peace, but it's another to change who
you are because it doesn't conform to some one's idea of how you should
behave. From your take on it, it does seem like Susan is letting stuff
bother her that apparently isn't an issue for anybody else.
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Author: celiacelia Date: Jul 11, 2007 06:45
On 11 Jul, 00:49, abrokenangel fake.com> wrote:> kinda long...you are warned....
>
> ok this is stupid and petty especially since the people in question are
> 33 (myself) and 48..i work with a woman named susan..she is very sweet,
> never says anything bad about anything or anyone and is very passive
> personality wise....very unlike me....
>
> ok here's the deal..a few weeks ago she got all offended by my language
> in the department..i used the words mine and my, or "i got"...other
> people use it..they say everything i have is out on the shelf...but i
> use it and its a problem....ok so i watch my mouth...i was a big girl
> and apologized for offending her...even though i didn't see it as a
> valid complaint...
>
> last week the department manager, her, and myself are standing around
> changing the weeks schedule...the dept manager tells me to get the keys
> from someone in the back and change the schedule on the big board...ok
> so at some point i do it, and tell her i changed it..she says well i'm
> gonna go back and check to see if it is right...like she doesn't trust ...
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Author: Cassidy VonnegutCassidy Vonnegut Date: Jul 11, 2007 07:30
On Jul 11, 6:45 am, celia hotmail.com> wrote:> On 11 Jul, 00:49, abrokenangel fake.com> wrote:
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>>> kinda long...you are warned....
>
>> ok this is stupid and petty especially since the people in question are
>> 33 (myself) and 48..i work with a woman named susan..she is very sweet,
>> never says anything bad about anything or anyone and is very passive
>> personality wise....very unlike me....
>
>> ok here's the deal..a few weeks ago she got all offended by my language
>> in the department..i used the words mine and my, or "i got"...other
>> people use it..they say everything i have is out on the shelf...but i
>> use it and its a problem....ok so i watch my mouth...i was a big girl
>> and apologized for offending her...even though i didn't see it as a
>> valid complaint... ...
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Author: abrokenangelabrokenangel Date: Jul 11, 2007 06:40
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> There's something else going on here.
I was thinking that too...she started before me but I've had much more
opportunities given to me by the department manager...options in the
computer that are a trust issue....dotti gives me a lot more stuff to do
because she knows i can do it and do it right....i don't know if that
kind of stuff is bothering her or what.....Management pulls us from the
department to cover other stuff when they are short and I don't get
pulled often....could be that...I've asked but she is very non
confrontational/passive and won't say anything negative or even close to
it...admitting she is jealous or even upset or something would be
considered a negative and she won't speak of it....
You're seeing the symptoms but > not the disease.
I know she has a lot going on physically...cancer survivor only a few
years out and her meds are getting tweaked....
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Author: Emo HaircutEmo Haircut Date: Jul 11, 2007 07:58
abrokenangel wrote:
> kinda long...you are warned....
I've encountered this before. What you are describing sounds to me like
you are good at your job, and she sees you as a rival. Take it as a
compliment, and remember who it is at work you need to please.
It aint her.
Please your customers and your boss, and if doing that bothers this
woman, the problem is hers, not yours.
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Author: kattastickattastic Date: Jul 11, 2007 08:36
On 11 Jul, 00:49, abrokenangel fake.com> wrote:> kinda long...you are warned....
>
> ok this is stupid and petty especially since the people in question are
> 33 (myself) and 48..i work with a woman named susan..she is very sweet,
> never says anything bad about anything or anyone and is very passive
> personality wise....very unlike me....
>
> ok here's the deal..a few weeks ago she got all offended by my language
> in the department..i used the words mine and my, or "i got"...other
> people use it..they say everything i have is out on the shelf...but i
> use it and its a problem....ok so i watch my mouth...i was a big girl
> and apologized for offending her...even though i didn't see it as a
> valid complaint...
>
> last week the department manager, her, and myself are standing around
> changing the weeks schedule...the dept manager tells me to get the keys
> from someone in the back and change the schedule on the big board...ok
> so at some point i do it, and tell her i changed it..she says well i'm
> gonna go back and check to see if it is right...like she doesn't trust ...
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Author: Alexander KalinowskiAlexander Kalinowski Date: Jul 11, 2007 09:34
abrokenangel fake.com> wrote:
> i have apologized and changed my behavior and the way i refer to things
> and its still no good....i am willing to admit that i can be bossy and
> maybe am sometimes but this is not soley my problem....
Alex:
Well, the first thing to ask yourself is whether that woman *can even*
be pleased by you. Secondly, you have shown an ability to question
yourself and to do better, so that's commendable. :-)
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> i want to go talk to the dept manager early tomorrow morning about
> this..the problem is what the hell do i say without it sounding like a
> few little kids having a tiff? or do i say nothing and let the chips
> fall where they may with her? see if she gets over it? i really want to
> talk to her just for the sake of openness and to get my take on things
> in....but don't know what to say....
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Author: ironicironic Date: Jul 11, 2007 15:35
On Jul 10, 4:49 pm, abrokenangel fake.com> wrote:> kinda long...you are warned....
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> ok this is stupid and petty especially since the people in question are
> 33 (myself) and 48..i work with a woman named susan..she is very sweet,
> never says anything bad about anything or anyone and is very passive
> personality wise....very unlike me....
>
> ok here's the deal..a few weeks ago she got all offended by my language
> in the department..i used the words mine and my, or "i got"...other
> people use it..they say everything i have is out on the shelf...but i
> use it and its a problem....ok so i watch my mouth...i was a big girl
> and apologized for offending her...even though i didn't see it as a
> valid complaint...
>
> last week the department manager, her, and myself are standing around
> changing the weeks schedule...the dept manager tells me to get the keys
> from someone in the back and change the schedule on the big board...ok
> so at some point i do it, and tell her i changed it..she says well i'm
> gonna go back and check to see if it is right...like she doesn't trust ...
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Author: abrokenangelabrokenangel Date: Jul 12, 2007 00:39
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> Sounds like you work at WallyWorld. If so, do you have the open door
> policy there?
Why do you say that?
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