> You make some interesting points and I am not usually like this, but
> let me tell you why I have learned to do this. Lately I have been
> taught to focus more on details because women notice details we never
> think about. I think they are more important than you realize. Just as
> Style stated that the BEST PUA spend hours agonizing over wether the
> little metal clasp on their shoes matches their earings, I spend time
> focusing on the details, including facial expression, inate body
> language, etc.
>
> I have started to pay extreme attention to my grooming and my dress and
> women notice me and initiate with me now :-) Details are good.
>
> I have also been taught to read situations before acting, hence the
> reason I am trying to get input on what these little situations I have
> recently encountered mean. I figured based on past experience ( I have
> developed a sixth sense about these things now) that she would flake
> and sure enough she did.
>
> I didn't get depressed for one second because I've been there before
> and made it at a convenient location for me (meet at my place to and
> then leave in my car).
>
> I do think you may have a point but I DO have the major concepts on my
> mind. But like I said I have learned that every thing you do can either
> amplify or filter her attraction and that it is important to read these
> situations before reacting, lest you take the wrong action and ruin all
> the work you put into it.
>
> No sweat with this girl though, she is one out of about six
> numbers/emails I have gotten in the past couple weeks, so I have other
> options.
>
>
>
> Formhandle wrote:

>> I read your other 2 posts.
>>
>> Your biggest issue, as it comes across in your posts, is:
>>
>> "Should I do X Y or Z??? What should I do? I don't know what to do!??
>> Please help me know exactly what to do! Does this mean 1 or 2 or 3?
>> What does ABC mean if XYZ = 12????"
>>
>> You're overly worrying about the smallest of details and if you continue
>> to be that way then the biggest obstacle to your success will be you.
>>
>> Chill out and look at the big picture.
>>
>>
>> hardtoget wrote:
>>

>>> Met this girl online. Called her up and got the call me then response
>>> but played it and got her to chase me.
>>>
>>> She emailed me a couple days later basically saying she's a party girl
>>> and wan't to know if we're on for X day.

>>
>> So she basically told you she's up for a hook up and now all you need to
>> do it play it cool, but instead you...
>>

>>> Sooo we email back and forth a couple times

>>
>> Why, just reply to her with a "yes" and a time & place to meet and that
>> is ALL.
>>

>>> and eventually I tell her
>>> to meet me at my place so we can leave together instead of waiting for
>>> each other at a crowded "place"

>>
>> Why? Even though she said "party girl" all her alarms will go off.
>> Meet her in a public place first THEN take her back to your place once
>> she feels safe with you. Even party girls need to gage a guy before
>> they go to his place alone, for all she knows you're an ax murderer.
>>

>>> I give her directions to my house and the time. She read my message but
>>> did not respond.

>>
>> How do you know she read your message? Is this a myspace thing?
>>

>>> Do you think she will cancel or flake??

>>
>> Possibly. If you want to ensure she doesn't, change plans and actually
>> tell her to meet you somewhere public first. Don't say that. Don't say
>> "Let's meet somewhere public first", just tell her that actually for Day
>> X it would be better for you if you guys met at such-and-such place
>> because [insert inane but plausible reason here].
>>

>>> Should I email or text her and canel if that is the case??

>>
>> So that is the options you think you have:
>>
>> - Do nothing and have a 90%% chance of flake where, even if you get the
>> 10%% chance working for you then you'd STILL have to do some major
>> seduction work to lay her before leaving your place (otherwise, you're
>> leaving to go somewhere and then you have to bring her back anyway if
>> you play things right).
>>
>> - Cancel and preempt the flake. Sure, that will make you "the man" but
>> that's the action of a loser, honestly.
>>
>> You're not seeing the other options. Namely, that you can CHANGE plans
>> just as readily as a girl can change plans on you. So do that. If you
>> think she might flake for a specific reason & you're fairly certain of
>> it, then CHANGE PLANS so that reason no longer exists.
>>
>> The other thing you should ask yourself is - if right now you have a
>> feeling of impending flake due to a certain action on your end
>> (insisting she come to meet you at your place, a guy she's NEVER met
>> face-to-face before), then why would you insist on it in the first place?
>>
>> ~Jay
>>
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