You make some interesting points and I am not usually like this, but
let me tell you why I have learned to do this. Lately I have been
taught to focus more on details because women notice details we never
think about. I think they are more important than you realize. Just as
Style stated that the BEST PUA spend hours agonizing over wether the
little metal clasp on their shoes matches their earings, I spend time
focusing on the details, including facial expression, inate body
language, etc.
I have started to pay extreme attention to my grooming and my dress and
women notice me and initiate with me now :-) Details are good.
I have also been taught to read situations before acting, hence the
reason I am trying to get input on what these little situations I have
recently encountered mean. I figured based on past experience ( I have
developed a sixth sense about these things now) that she would flake
and sure enough she did.
I didn't get depressed for one second because I've been there before
and made it at a convenient location for me (meet at my place to and
then leave in my car).
I do think you may have a point but I DO have the major concepts on my
mind. But like I said I have learned that every thing you do can either
amplify or filter her attraction and that it is important to read these
situations before reacting, lest you take the wrong action and ruin all
the work you put into it.
No sweat with this girl though, she is one out of about six
numbers/emails I have gotten in the past couple weeks, so I have other
options.
Formhandle wrote:
> I read your other 2 posts.
>
> Your biggest issue, as it comes across in your posts, is:
>
> "Should I do X Y or Z??? What should I do? I don't know what to do!??
> Please help me know exactly what to do! Does this mean 1 or 2 or 3?
> What does ABC mean if XYZ = 12????"
>
> You're overly worrying about the smallest of details and if you continue
> to be that way then the biggest obstacle to your success will be you.
>
> Chill out and look at the big picture.
>
>
> hardtoget wrote:
>
>> Met this girl online. Called her up and got the call me then response
>> but played it and got her to chase me.
>>
>> She emailed me a couple days later basically saying she's a party girl
>> and wan't to know if we're on for X day.
>
> So she basically told you she's up for a hook up and now all you need to
> do it play it cool, but instead you...
>
>> Sooo we email back and forth a couple times
>
> Why, just reply to her with a "yes" and a time & place to meet and that
> is ALL.
>
>> and eventually I tell her
>> to meet me at my place so we can leave together instead of waiting for
>> each other at a crowded "place"
>
> Why? Even though she said "party girl" all her alarms will go off.
> Meet her in a public place first THEN take her back to your place once
> she feels safe with you. Even party girls need to gage a guy before
> they go to his place alone, for all she knows you're an ax murderer.
>
>> I give her directions to my house and the time. She read my message but
>> did not respond.
>
> How do you know she read your message? Is this a myspace thing?
>
>> Do you think she will cancel or flake??
>
> Possibly. If you want to ensure she doesn't, change plans and actually
> tell her to meet you somewhere public first. Don't say that. Don't say
> "Let's meet somewhere public first", just tell her that actually for Day
> X it would be better for you if you guys met at such-and-such place
> because [insert inane but plausible reason here].
>
>> Should I email or text her and canel if that is the case??
>
> So that is the options you think you have:
>
> - Do nothing and have a 90%% chance of flake where, even if you get the
> 10%% chance working for you then you'd STILL have to do some major
> seduction work to lay her before leaving your place (otherwise, you're
> leaving to go somewhere and then you have to bring her back anyway if
> you play things right).
>
> - Cancel and preempt the flake. Sure, that will make you "the man" but
> that's the action of a loser, honestly.
>
> You're not seeing the other options. Namely, that you can CHANGE plans
> just as readily as a girl can change plans on you. So do that. If you
> think she might flake for a specific reason & you're fairly certain of
> it, then CHANGE PLANS so that reason no longer exists.
>
> The other thing you should ask yourself is - if right now you have a
> feeling of impending flake due to a certain action on your end
> (insisting she come to meet you at your place, a guy she's NEVER met
> face-to-face before), then why would you insist on it in the first place?
>
> ~Jay
>
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