Hi there,

Getting better at inter-personal communication I started noticing how
rapport actually gets built. When eye contact is comfortable and when
leaning in or back makes more sense.

The great thing is, these things are now almost automatic for me, and
are about the comfort of the other person in conversation with me,
rather than the goal of rapport.

I often dislike taking laws of physics and extrapolating from them
philosophically, but in this case, it just fits live a glove.

Nature abhors vacuum. If there is interest, lean back and the other
person will lean in. If you are not wasting your energies, stop
calling and the other person will call. This is not about games, but
rather about how communication works--finding the balance to achieve
comfort.

The most profound understandings are simple ones. I babble more about
what I call The Leaning Game and this subject on my blog if you have
further interest in this. Input is more than appreciated:
http://camelot-bl.blogspot.com/2008/06/nature-abhors-vacuum.html

Thanks,

Pinky.