> On Jun 11, 2:25 pm, "fakeob...@
gmail.com"
gmail.com> wrote:>> She almost starts to spill the truth and admit that women dig "jerks",
>> but then goes back to the old, tired, "keep being a nice guy... the
>> girls will come around" schtick.
>>
>>
http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/08162/888632-399.stm
>>
>> Women advice columnists have been giving the same, hackneyed advice
>> for at least the last 30 years. I submit to the columnist, if her
>> advice is accurate, why are AFCs still complaining about the same
>> treatment by women decade after decade after decade? I thought they
>> all said that women eventually come around and appreciate the "nice
>> guy."
>
> I'm an outspoken critic of PUAdom in this area - I believe many, if
> not most, girls are completely oblivious to why they don't want a nice
> guy. I think they are sincere when they say "I want a guy that treats
> me right." Problem is, their subconscious evolutionary desires are far
> more powerful than their conscious that has them crying on a Saturday
> night while Mr. Badboy screws half the town, and taking him back the
> next day.
>
> I also believe the whole 'secret society' is bullshit. Women tell
> their guy friends to be 'nice guys' because that is when their
> conscious is active and in control, and they are considering what they
> think they want. Then, the subconscious kicks in when its time to make
> self-decisions. No big 'secret' women are hiding from us, they just
> don't have the slightest clue themselves.
It is an interesting area of PUAdom - the nice guy shit. In a way, it is the
heart of the matter for most guys. It is an area where the modern
sensabilities meet the primitive drives. For women, I think Yes it is where
they want one thing(or think they should) and when biology kicks in, they
are turned on by another. What has become more fascinating to me is why guys
buy into the nice guy stuff so strongly in the first place.
Women yell they want a nice guy even from grade school, but do the exact
opposite. There is ample evidence to the contrary in our faces, so why do so
many guys latch onto the nice guy version so strongly? Some women speak the
truth, as well, and berate nice guys. So why do guys accept the 'nice guy'
shit when 99%% of reality is to the contrary?
I had similar feeling in grade school about kids that broke the rules. I was
a good kid but other kids would fight, cuss, cheat and act up. One guy was
yelled at and thrown into the hall every day but when there was something
cool to do, he got first crack. I remember when our class got to use a video
camera(this is when they were a fortune), the teacher chose him to do the
camerawork. I was outraged. Why did she pick the asshole who fought with her
everyday and was constantly in trouble to do the coolest thing ever? Why did
mp spotless record of behavior mean *NOTHING* when it mattered? I was
baffled and angry.
