On Nov 7, 10:38 am, "biggs" wrote:
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>> To start off this thread, I'd like to mention that I seem to have a
>> couple of dates lined up for next week. So one-itis is not my problem
>> right now. It was, however, my problem with the Austrian chick (the
>> posts are archived). I just want to say you guys who told me to work
>> quickly on her were absolutely right.
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>> While I took risks at first, I played it conservative and chatted and
>> kissed her on the cheek before leaving on both dates, even on the
>> second in her apartment. She lost interest in me. I realized then and
>> there that I had absolutely nothing to lose had I been more aggressive,
>> because playing nice guy got me nowhere. This of course is
>> counter-intuitive. See, this was the girl of my dreams: she was my
>> physical type, and when she would not return my calls I felt
>> devastated. I vowed never again will I let a woman or man have that
>> level of control over me. I will become a "bad boy." I will take
>> risks and not care. I don't ever want to be Mr. Nice Guy only to see a
>> woman callously lose interest in me when potentially being a true
>> loverboy could have gotten me at least some physical pleasure and
>> adventure.
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>> I thought: when we were sitting on the couch, I should have asked her,
>> "Are you afraid of boys? Then sit over here next to me" and initiated
>> kino. Heck, I could have told her to sit on my lap, as Mystery has
>> suggested. I wasn't daddy to this girl. I let her shit test me and I
>> got into irrelevant topics. I didn't neg (it worked on the first date
>> with this 7) and qualify. I did not use another routine for the second
>> date. I should instead have used Our World or something.
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>> I wasn't sexy. I wasn't a passionate lover. I might seem a jerk to
>> some women by being aggressive, but I will seem lame and boring to many
>> more by playing it safe.
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>> It's a whole new me. I will run more routines and get into kino much
>> earlier next time. I will set expectations with these 2 girls lined
>> up. I will take risks, and if they don't like me, see ya! :)Oh man I know what you're talking about, been there myself some months
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> I know this "austrian chick" thing very well too, but in my case she
> wasn't austrian. anyway, I talked to her some times ago and told her
> that I think I should have been more "aggressive". She agreed. (damn,
> why couldn't I come up with that some months earlier, anyway...)
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> I was the nice guy too. Girls tell you that being Mr. Nice Guy is good,
> but it ain't. "Nice guys finish last" is damn true. Right now I'm not a
> bad boy. But I'm a "Bad Nice Guy" or a "Nice Bad Guy", and this works
> out for me. Don't play it safe, play it fast. You can compare it to
> poker hehe. If you play a straight flush safe, you can get a little
> amount of money, but you can win big time if you play it fast.
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> Good luck buddy! Keep on working and success will come!
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Amen,
Nice guys finish last. most women will deny this, but it is true. sorry
to hear that it didn't work out with Austrian HB. there is always space
to get that back, but its a harder up-hill struggle, its easier to give
people a good impression of you when they have nothing to compare it
with. its harder to change an existing perception of you. take it as a
long term aim.
you don't need to be a bad boy though, there are loads of different
styles out there. you can play the bad boy, the sexual miscreant, the
party boy, the hard and fast corporate type. whatever fits you, do what
fits you, do what you feel works.
But don't worry if it doesn't feel comfortable. the more you do it, the
more comfortable you get with it. just like a new pair of shoes.
eventually you will break them in. or they will break you in. either
way, they fit.
personally, i'm trying to adopt an ultra confident, in control and
totally relaxed approach. this is my idea of what a true seductionist
is (not just with women, but with everyone).
This is something that my mate Trick has been helping me with: sit down
and really think hard: what would the ultimate seductionist be to you?
what qualities would he have? what would he look like, both in
appearance and mannerisms? how would people react to him? why? what
would allow him to be like that?
break it down and see what this seductionist is. the funny thing is
(according to Trick) this is your very own perception of what the
ultimate seductionist is - its no-one elses. therefore it comes from
with you. it is you. the you that hasn't been released yet. so release
it.
Talking of Trick, i've just got another email from him.
Scruff.
