>Okay first time reader first time poster here.
>I have been an AFC for most of my life, even though I didn't know the
>accronym til about an hour ago. I'll just tell the whole story and
>hopefully some of you experts can help me out.
>
>Meet this girl on match.com. Not a paying member so all I could do was
>wink. She winked back. I used the pics and info on match to track her
>down on myspace. a couple emails later and we are on our first date. I
>took her out for a lite dinner, then afterwards I suggested we go
>somewhere else and get some more drinks. She wanted to so we did. It
>actually went quite well but I gave no KINO. There was a moment toward
>the end where she walked behind me and leaned over and rubbed my
>shoulder but I did nothing. First big mistake. The date ended with a
>nice hug and a lets do it again.
>I called her the next day and said I had a CD for her (I'm in a band
>and was leaving in a few days to tour so I wanted her to be listening
>to me and thinking about me while I was gone.) Met for coffee. Again
>no KINO except maybe a hug. I think I called or txted her later that
>day trying to hang out again once more before I left. I was only going
>to be gone for 10 days. She said she already had plans and I said
>something like "I wish I wan't going so soon I had so much fun hanging
>out with you the other night." I know, I'm a total idiot. I recognized
>all this before I found this forum.
>Had a couple good phone conversations while on tour and made a date
>for when I got back. Took her to Blades Of Glory and then to a bar.
>AGAIN NO KINO I'm such an idiot.
>So at this point I can tell that if I don't act fast I'll be in the
>friend zone.
>I showed up at a dance bar where she said she was going with a gf. She
>didn't invite me per se but did tell me where she was going. This was
>the night I did ALMOST everything right. Took a wingman, saw her and
>her friend, had some lame conversation before they walked away. I kind
>of milled around for a while and then spotted her talking to some
>other dude. This is the point where I conciously made a decision to
>not be the AFC anymore. I walked right up to her and asked her to
>dance. She was pretty drunk and it wasn't long before we were making
>out pretty hard right in the middle of the bar. Then she says she has
>to tell me something, but then hesitates and tries to sluff it off.
>Like an idiot I encourage her to tell me. She says that while she
>really liked hanging out with me she had thought that maybe she just
>wanted to be friends. But now that she was drunk and we were making
>out I am such a good kisser that maybe she's changing her mind. Then
>she asks if I'm offended by that to which I very stupidly reply "No
>because I hear that ALL the time." We continue to go at it until they
>close down then go back to my buddys house and resume on the couch. I
>get to 2nd (never to be reached again) and end up falling off the
>couch to the floor and going to sleep.
>Naturally I'm feelin pretty good at this point. So a couple days later
>I invite her over for dinner and a movie. I don't initiate any KINO
>though she is shouldering right up on my durring the movie. When she
>leaves I walk her to the door and give her a great kiss on the lips.
>After that I say "I'm not sure if I'm supposed to kiss you goodnight
>after what you said the other night." To which she replies "what did I
>say? Oh yeah... Don't worry about that." and she leans in and gives me
>another kiss. Not a short one either.
>This is where the train starts to come off the rails. I probably
>called or txtd her just about everyday that week, even though I knew
>she was coming to see my show the next weekend, I couldn't just chill
>out for 5 days. She comes to the show, stayed for the whole thing, we
>go out to another bar and then back to my house. Pretty soon we're
>going to sleep in my bed, though both fully clothed. We kissed a lot
>but nothing more.
>I have a lot of trouble falling asleep and end up tossing and turning
>all night to the point where at 630 am she gets up and says she's
>going home. But she sets up a breakfast date for the following day.
>Rather than just chill out til then I continue to try and get her to
>hang out every free moment. We do breakfast as scheduled and this
>doesn't even end with a hug.
>Again I call or txt just about every day, culminating 3 days later
>with a phone book of a txt explaining that I really like her and I
>know she's on the bubble with me but lets hang out and have some fun.
>No Reply. The next morning she LJBFs me citing no romantic chemistry.
>NO SHIT! So I'm talkin to a buddy of mine a few days later and I know
>her and her friends are going to the same bar we danced at a week ago
>and he says we absolutely have to go and party it up right in front of
>her. So we did. I danced with all of her friends and once with her
>then I left about an hour before closing (I was pretty wasted).
>That was a couple days ago. Since then I've continued to txt even
>though I know I should just ignore her for awhile.
>Oh and I forgot to mention sometime durring the first 2 dates I told
>her that I'm not like most guys in that I don't have the constant
>desire to have sex. I'm sure I said many other equally stupid things.
>I have invited her to bring all of her friends to a bbq at my house
>the day after tomorrow, to which she inquired about details but did
>not confirm.
>
>SO this is not one-itis as I've only know her for less than a month.
>But she is really hot and if there is a way to try the turn around I
>want to do it, if for no other reason than practice. I'll keep culling
>through this forum but if any of you guys has some advice please lay
>it on me.