Buddy, I'm not gonna lie to you, it sounds like you have a major case
of one-itis. Go fuck ten other women, and then consider how you still
feel about this girl. If you stil feel the same then you now have the
skills to get her. If you don't you saved yourself a hell of a hassle.

~~
Zea

MegaGimp wrote:

Like Zea said.

You said yourself you're divorcing these days, and you are already
friends with her. I don't know you but you're almost implying it's her
fault that you are getting divorced. Even if that isn't true, it's not a
good situation.

Zea wrote:

Id have to agree also. One-itis seems to be radiating from you, but
each to their own. If its that girl you want then just believe its that
girl you are going to get.

However if you do really want this girl, from what your saying, it
sounds like you are in with her, but you seem to have one foot in the
door in case you decide to back yourself out in future. Sounds like she
can smell this on you. Have you tried any NLP imaging or self hypnosis?
It sounds like you could close this deal with a simple course of
confidence and charm.

Caliber

Id have to agree also. One-itis seems to be radiating from you, but
each to their own. If its that girl you want then just believe its that
girl you are going to get.

However if you do really want this girl, from what your saying, it
sounds like you are in with her, but you seem to have one foot in the
door in case you decide to back yourself out in future. Sounds like she
can smell this on you. Have you tried any NLP imaging or self hypnosis?
It sounds like you could close this deal with a simple course of
confidence and charm.

Caliber

MegaGimp wrote:

Oh, and her father is in this theatre group too. Is it a good idea to
get along with him and ignore her (not so much it becomes obvious)?
Give him more attention than his daughter?

He is very funny and I often make him laugh at my jokes. A cool guy too!

Here is how it all is:

- Married guy(divorcing these days), 37, 2 kids
- Met a girl, 27 a few months ago, fell for her
- We meet each other weekly at theatre practice
- Got together at a couple of parties, she enjoyed sitting next to me
when I sang and played guitar
- She had a boyfriend since 21, she threw him out 3 months ago

Been nice to her and we talk a bit, now it seems she is giving me ljbf
signals, even though we haven't touched that subject. Also signals she
have a active life and give hints on age difference and my lack of
spare time having kids and house etc... Seems as though she wants me to
know we're in different worlds. Told her I'm breaking up with wife, we
talked about getting up after hard times in life, she told me she was
really down some time ago. She is a nice and smart girl.

She is beautiful, very intelligent and says she can see tru us men,
which she consider very simple compared to the female mind. She also
said "If you only knew....." while we sat alone in the hot tub on a
party. Does it mean I should have hit on her? She is a very tough and
strong lady mentally, so I see her as a hard nail to break.

Caliber wrote:

Any tips on how to learn NLP imaging? Self hypnosis? You mean I could
get her on her back? Don't feel I have all the confident I need right
now, she is a hard nail to nail...

"MegaGimp" wrote in message
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Its hard for me to tell you what to do without more details about how you
and her met, how long known her, why you are divorcing...ect...ect...ect.

Since you are saying that you know nothing of these methods, then its hard
to advise...least for me.

Divorce with kids is hard on a person, I suggest you deal with that
first....clear your mind so to speak. Get your life started again, and begin
learning all the free stuff. You can find a wealth of...

The only way to get her is to cut off all contact with her after
demonstrating some type of value to her.

If you accept an LJBF she'll just exploit it and you to her chump harem.

Although Ray does have a point, i do believe that in this scenario
there are better ways to approach this problem.

Confidence is a must. I totally suggest your first priority is to feel
good about yourself and be comfortable with who you are. If you need
help, then hypnosis is the best way foreward.

Second, I think it would be out of charecter from what you have said to
demonstrate value like a performing monkey then ignore her. Im certain
from how you describe her, with how well she knows you that she would
figure you out instantly.
You already seem to be demonstrating value at certain times, so keep it
up with what your doing, and try to develop yourself further.

Im sure you can bag her after youve grown your confidence level.

Its easy... Just feel good about yourself, and be the best you possibly
can - Inside and out!
Thats your first goal!

Id love to hear how you get on

Caliber