On Oct 25, 10:41 am, "biggs" wrote:
> Alright... I've got a date on thursday. And the reason why I'm writing
> this is: I'm going to go for an f-close! (To be honest with y'all... I
> definitely need a BJ haha)!
>
> First of all, I'd like to hear your take on something...
> When I'm driving my date home, or driving to another location or
> whatever, what music should I play? We all know that women notice even
> the smallest details, and I think we all agree that a woman will notice
> what music we are playing in our car etc. Are you with me?
>
> So, should I play music without a certain "feeling"? Should I play slow
> music, something to relax? Or should I play (the alltime greates kind
> of music: Soul) some Barry White, Luther Vandross, Marvin etc?
> Every suggestion's welcome.
>
> Back to my f-close "tactic"...
> We'll meet at a bar I know very well. The owner is a friend of mine and
> all the waitresses know me. Good social proof (especially good because
> she's going to study "Event Management". So it's good that I'm in the
> bar scene.) It's a very "chilled" place. One of my favourite locations.
>
> After that I want to take her to another bar. It's a great place, very
> cozy, with good live music every evening. Two of my friends work there
> (social proof again).
>
> If it's all working out I'd like to take her to a great place. It's up
> on a hill, you can see the whole city. (I really like this view). I
> want to take her to a special place. Just me and her, no other people.
> (Ray: Just because I'm totaly isolating her, I'm definitely NOT going
> to rape her. Keep that in mind for further argumentation).
> I came up with a transition last night: In the beginning she will ask
> me about my holiday (I told her about it). I'll not tell her at that
> time and start other convos untill I think we're ready to go to the
> hill. I then tell her about the beautiful landscape (Thanks to Scruff
> for that idea! I'll do this just like he wrote it down). Suddenly I
> grab her hand and tell her to leave, that I want to show her something
> great, that it is a surprise, and just drive to this "special place".
> I think it might work. To me it's like a scene in a romantic movie. As
> far as I know, women love this kind of stuff ("It was just like a
> movie! etc...).
>
> Has someone any other good advice in order to achieve this "goal"?
>
> Thanks in advance,
> Biggs
Ok, maybe a little late now, since you've already had the date (sorry
man, had a busy couple of days and a date of my own last night - will
post in a bit). hope your date when well, let us know, i liked your
plans.
Music in the car... My advice is listen to whatever you want to listen
to dude! just so long as its not too loud that you can't talk, it
doesnt matter if she doesnt like it (that has benefits... as i will
address) its what makes you feel good, puts you in the mood for
whatever it is you want to be in the mood for.
I'll give an example:
I was dating this very cute girl a couple of months ago, HB8 - actually
my first successful sarge (yes, no longer dating, but still friends
which suits me fine, she wants more serious, and i said i wasn't
ready), f-closed in my car on the second date (never had sex in a car
before, was awesome!)
she's from a totally different background to me, and is into hip hop,
RnB, stuff like that. i don't mind that king of stuff since i can
listen to most things, but for me, i love Indie and Brit Rock. so when
i'm driving her around in my car, i'm listening to whatever i want -
Xfm - awesome radio station - have a listen online. she hates it, and
tells me so all the time. other things which i like that i feel are a
little more 'diplomatic' are things like Lenny Kravitz or ACDC (makes
me feel like the world is my oyster), Jamiroquai (makes me feel damn
sexy), and Funky House (puts me in an utterly party mood).
Don't yield! thats even if she complains - this is your car, the way
you want it to be, this is your world, and if she's going to get you,
she'll have to put up with it! if you do yield you are allowing her to
dictate to you what she wants.
just tell her - "this stuff makes me feel good! i'm in such a good mood
right now, aren't you?"
i avoid playing anything too obvious. I love soul music, but its too
cliché, she knows exactly what you're expecting when Ben E King's
'Stand By Me' or 'The Boardwalk' comes on. Barry White... Far too
obvious (but isnt he the man? listen to him before you go on your date,
put yourself in the frame. by playing too obvious she knows exactly
what you want, and you've blown your game... Re: Cat String Theory. by
playing what you want and not yielding, she's on the back foot.
of course you have to play this carefully, so that she doesn't think
you are some weirdo. thats why i say don't play it too loudly, your
conversation should have her attention, not the music.
If she does nothing but bitch and complain you can do a few things
- point out that this is your car, and when she drives you around, she
can listen to what the fuck she likes.
- Tell her to bugger off, if she's going to be that moany, she's not
worth it.
and the best...?
- say to her: "yeah? what kind of music are you into... hmm.. i don't
know them. have you got any on CD? take me back to yours and play some
to me, i love to hear new stuff."
;-)
if you do want to make it more 'intimate' just try turning off the
radio/CD/MP3 or turning it right down, so its totally background. if
you park up to get a little touchy feely, its a good idea to turn your
car off anyway. a car sitting there, its lights on, music playing,
idling away on the edge of some road is a little conspicuous...
Scruff.
