> A Word on Qualifying
>
> Qualifying: trying to meet the expecations of another person at the
> expense of your own expectations.
>
> this is a huge no-no. many pussified men today have the ATTITUDE of
> qualifying. they forfeit their expectations in favor of a woman's
> expectations. so they lose their very ground for being attractive to a
> woman. once a man forfeits his authority by assuming the submissive
> role and submitting to the expectations of women, he forfeits his POM.
> by forfeiting his POM, he is giving women very little reason to be
> attracted to him.
>
> Reversing Principles
>
> harboring the attutide of submission and catering to a woman's
> expectations, pussified males continually strive to be CONGRUENT with
> EVERYTHING they do. they don't want anything to seem out of place as
> this might upset a woman. they take special care to do things "RIGHT."
> or do things in a way that seems "natural" when in reality, they're
> trying to do things just to avoid offending a woman.
>
> they will second guess themselves. they will neurotically question
> their own decisions a thousand times over, searching for the least
> offensive course of action. they will continually waffle back and
> forth between decisions in the hopes of "not blowing it" with a woman.
>
> this of course has COMPLETELY THE OPPOSITE EFFECT; women are TURNED
> OFF by indefinite men because these men simply lack any functional
> authority. refusing to respect their own expectations, these men offer
> women little cause to respect them.. if a woman does not respect a
> man, she will never be attracted to that man, just as a child who's
> never been told 'NO' by her parents will have trouble respecting them.
>
> i recently spoke with a girl who confirmed the same thing. she said
> she was in a relationship with a pussified guy. even though he was
> hurt by the things she did, he NEVER stood up to her. he never yelled
> at her or gave any sign that she was doing anything that violated his
> expectations. eventually she became irritated with him and purposely
> TIRED to provoke him by doing bad things. but he remained in his
> pussified state and refused to get angry with her and refused to say
> 'NO' to her. as a result, she completely lost respect for him and now
> thinks of him as an "idiot." she was once initially attracted to him
> because he displayed Social Value.. but he had no FUNCTIONAL VALUE. HE
> HAD NO FUNCTIONAL AUTHORITY to care for and enforce his EXPECTATIONS.
> basically he let her walk all over him. and she did. and she hated him
> for it in the end.
>
> this should be a lesson to you guys out there trying to continually do
> the right thing by being ULTRA-CONGRUENT so as not to seem out of
> place or offensive to a woman. to the guys who are so worried about
> doing things perfectly, newsflash: you've ALREADY blown it. you ARE
> ALREADY BLOWING IT BY CATERING TO HER EXPECTATIONS! you need to stop
> this immediately and care for your OWN EXPECTATIONS. you need to care
> for what you EXPECT OF A WOMAN. which means you will need to START
> BLOWING IT. you need to purposely screw it up, so you get past the
> idea of qualifying to her every expectation and whim....
>
> and the shocking thing will be: you'll have more of an opportunity to
> create attraction by trying to blow it than you would trying to say
> the perfect thing all the time.. or trying approach girls with the
> perfect pretense or opening line.. or trying to make the perfect
> conversational segue; you guys tiptoe around your expectations so much
> because you worry about meeting her expectations..
>
> stop this nonsense immediately-- start BLOWING IT. you'll see how much
> better it is than NOT BLOWING IT. the results will surprise you!
>
> xoxo,
>
> NFM
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