A Word on Qualifying

Qualifying: trying to meet the expecations of another person at the
expense of your own expectations.

this is a huge no-no. many pussified men today have the ATTITUDE of
qualifying. they forfeit their expectations in favor of a woman's
expectations. so they lose their very ground for being attractive to a
woman. once a man forfeits his authority by assuming the submissive
role and submitting to the expectations of women, he forfeits his POM.
by forfeiting his POM, he is giving women very little reason to be
attracted to him.

Reversing Principles

harboring the attutide of submission and catering to a woman's
expectations, pussified males continually strive to be CONGRUENT with
EVERYTHING they do. they don't want anything to seem out of place as
this might upset a woman. they take special care to do things "RIGHT."
or do things in a way that seems "natural" when in reality, they're
trying to do things just to avoid offending a woman.

they will second guess themselves. they will neurotically question
their own decisions a thousand times over, searching for the least
offensive course of action. they will continually waffle back and
forth between decisions in the hopes of "not blowing it" with a woman.

this of course has COMPLETELY THE OPPOSITE EFFECT; women are TURNED
OFF by indefinite men because these men simply lack any functional
authority. refusing to respect their own expectations, these men offer
women little cause to respect them.. if a woman does not respect a
man, she will never be attracted to that man, just as a child who's
never been told 'NO' by her parents will have trouble respecting them.

i recently spoke with a girl who confirmed the same thing. she said
she was in a relationship with a pussified guy. even though he was
hurt by the things she did, he NEVER stood up to her. he never yelled
at her or gave any sign that she was doing anything that violated his
expectations. eventually she became irritated with him and purposely
TIRED to provoke him by doing bad things. but he remained in his
pussified state and refused to get angry with her and refused to say
'NO' to her. as a result, she completely lost respect for him and now
thinks of him as an "idiot." she was once initially attracted to him
because he displayed Social Value.. but he had no FUNCTIONAL VALUE. HE
HAD NO FUNCTIONAL AUTHORITY to care for and enforce his EXPECTATIONS.
basically he let her walk all over him. and she did. and she hated him
for it in the end.

this should be a lesson to you guys out there trying to continually do
the right thing by being ULTRA-CONGRUENT so as not to seem out of
place or offensive to a woman. to the guys who are so worried about
doing things perfectly, newsflash: you've ALREADY blown it. you ARE
ALREADY BLOWING IT BY CATERING TO HER EXPECTATIONS! you need to stop
this immediately and care for your OWN EXPECTATIONS. you need to care
for what you EXPECT OF A WOMAN. which means you will need to START
BLOWING IT. you need to purposely screw it up, so you get past the
idea of qualifying to her every expectation and whim....

and the shocking thing will be: you'll have more of an opportunity to
create attraction by trying to blow it than you would trying to say
the perfect thing all the time.. or trying approach girls with the
perfect pretense or opening line.. or trying to make the perfect
conversational segue; you guys tiptoe around your expectations so much
because you worry about meeting her expectations..

stop this nonsense immediately-- start BLOWING IT. you'll see how much
better it is than NOT BLOWING IT. the results will surprise you!

xoxo,

NFM
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