> S Marie wrote:

>> Just wondering if anyone has ever been told this or heard of this.
>> About 4 yrs. ago I went through a program for a dual diagnosis
>> (depression and drug use) and the therapist told the group one day
>> that 2 addicts never make it in a long term relationship. Said she's
>> never seen it or heard of it. (And she had to be in her fifties). It
>> was defeating and difficult to hear her talk about this. I was labeled
>> as having an addicting personality for being honest about past drug
>> use, even though when I sought help I was clean, not clean long, but
>> clean none the less. My then fiance and now husband was still using
>> during that time. I've always been the dabbler while he has been the
>> hard core user. I've always been able to quit cold turkey. (from
>> alcohol to coke to pills). He's on 'done for the second time, he needs
>> pain relief. I didn't need 'done and I'm clean. Yeah things can be
>> rocky at times, (who's relationship can't) and 4 years after hearing
>> that we are still together. But that nagging thought has always
>> remained in my head. Do your think she tells people that so if they
>> are in a relationship while they are trying to get clean and the other
>> person isn't, they'll leave it to increase their odds at staying ...

> On Oct 25, 9:58 am, Bob Stark hotmail.com> wrote:
>
>
>

>> S Marie wrote:

>>> Just wondering if anyone has ever been told this or heard of this.
>>> About 4 yrs. ago I went through a program for a dual diagnosis
>>> (depression and drug use) and the therapist told the group one day
>>> that 2 addicts never make it in a long term relationship. Said she's
>>> never seen it or heard of it. (And she had to be in her fifties). It
>>> was defeating and difficult to hear her talk about this. I was labeled
>>> as having an addicting personality for being honest about past drug
>>> use, even though when I sought help I was clean, not clean long, but
>>> clean none the less. My then fiance and now husband was still using
>>> during that time. I've always been the dabbler while he has been the
>>> hard core user. I've always been able to quit cold turkey. (from
>>> alcohol to coke to pills). He's on 'done for the second time, he needs
>>> pain relief. I didn't need 'done and I'm clean. Yeah things can be
>>> rocky at times, (who's relationship can't) and 4 years after hearing ...

> She was talking shit,I know of three couples who have lived together
> since the late 70s for one couple and the early 80s for the
> second,These
> two have stuck through thick and thin,Prison,Drugs,Miscarrage, but
> mainly Drugs.The third which I mentioned were alright until one was
> killed in
> a Motorcycle crash.This woman was only voicing an opinion no-body can
> speak for everyone.I have even seen them stick whilst one was clean
> and the other was using,although this was during pregnancy.Everybody
> is entitled to their own mind,but a Therapist of all people should
> know
> better than to genralise like this.Also I think she was telling you
> her real thoughts on the matter,and not some sort of seed planted by
> her in your mind to give you the kick up the arse you need from time
> to time.Anyway I wish the two of you the best of luck,it does seem
> like you have found
> your soulmates,I wish I could.
> ...

>
>Here now yew know of four! ;o)
>T.

> On Fri, 26 Oct 2007 06:00:34 -0700, "Tim and Lisa"
> socal.rr.com> wrote:
>

>>
>>Here now yew know of four! ;o)
>>T.

>
> What's for breakfast today?

> On Fri, 26 Oct 2007 07:13:38 -0700, "Tim and Lisa"
> socal.rr.com> wrote:
>

>>
>>"Tex" hotmail.com> wrote in message
>>news:gkr3i3tnse6839inl63ohgnu7hkvuei30s@4ax.com...

>>> On Fri, 26 Oct 2007 06:00:34 -0700, "Tim and Lisa"
>>> socal.rr.com> wrote:
>>>

>>>>
>>>>Here now yew know of four! ;o)
>>>>T.

>>>
>>> What's for breakfast today?

>>
>>
>>Some fresh just ground coffee beans, Oatmeal wiff maple syrup to start!
>>Some ...

> She was talking shit,I know of three couples who have lived together
> since the late 70s for one couple and the early 80s for the
> second,These
> two have stuck through thick and thin,Prison,Drugs,Miscarrage, but
> mainly Drugs.The third which I mentioned were alright until one was
> killed in
> a Motorcycle crash.This woman was only voicing an opinion no-body can
> speak for everyone.I have even seen them stick whilst one was clean
> and the other was using,although this was during pregnancy.Everybody
> is entitled to their own mind,but a Therapist of all people should
> know
> better than to genralise like this.Also I think she was telling you
> her real thoughts on the matter,and not some sort of seed planted by
> her in your...

> On Oct 26, 2:59 am, *GED* yahoo.co.uk> wrote:
>
>
>

>> She was talking shit,I know of three couples who have lived together
>> since the late 70s for one couple and the early 80s for the
>> second,These
>> two have stuck through thick and thin,Prison,Drugs,Miscarrage, but
>> mainly Drugs.The third which I mentioned were alright until one was
>> killed in
>> a Motorcycle crash.This woman was only voicing an opinion no-body can
>> speak for everyone.I have even seen them stick whilst one was clean
>> and the other was using,although this was during pregnancy.Everybody
>> is entitled to their own mind,but a Therapist of all people should
>> know
>> better than to genralise like this.Also I think she was telling you
>> her real thoughts on the matter,and not some sort of seed planted by
>> her in your mind to give you the kick up the arse you need from time
>> to time.Anyway I wish the two of you the best of luck,it does seem ...