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Author: 2is4square2is4square Date: Sep 17, 2008 16:10
Greetings Everybody,
I'm new to the group and after reading many posts and seeing so many
people "out there" I'm kind of surprised that there's so much openness
and candor. Although this way of life seems completely natural to me,
my sense is that it's still "fringe" to most of the world and that
exposing one's poly-ways might have some significant risks (jobs and
otherwise).
Are people generally finding acceptance out there when the "come out?"
Thanks for any insights to a relative newbie.
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Author: Aahz MaruchAahz Maruch Date: Sep 17, 2008 16:15
In article z66g2000hsc.googlegroups.com>,
2is4square <2is4square@gmail.com> wrote:>
>I'm new to the group and after reading many posts and seeing so many
>people "out there" I'm kind of surprised that there's so much openness
>and candor. Although this way of life seems completely natural to me,
>my sense is that it's still "fringe" to most of the world and that
>exposing one's poly-ways might have some significant risks (jobs and
>otherwise).
>
>Are people generally finding acceptance out there when the "come out?"
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Author: Irfon-Kim AhmadIrfon-Kim Ahmad Date: Sep 17, 2008 16:16
> Greetings Everybody,
>
> I'm new to the group and after reading many posts and seeing so many
> people "out there" I'm kind of surprised that there's so much openness
> and candor. Although this way of life seems completely natural to me,
> my sense is that it's still "fringe" to most of the world and that
> exposing one's poly-ways might have some significant risks (jobs and
> otherwise).
>
> Are people generally finding acceptance out there when the "come out?"
Some people on here are very out on all fronts, and mostly I've heard
from them that most people have been accepting. The most common
reaction seems to be, "I couldn't do that, but hey, if it works for you,
more power to you."
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Author: Rob WynneRob Wynne Date: Sep 17, 2008 17:24
Irfon-Kim Ahmad ambienautica.com> wrote:> Some people on here are very out on all fronts, and mostly I've heard
> from them that most people have been accepting. The most common
> reaction seems to be, "I couldn't do that, but hey, if it works for you,
> more power to you."
>
> I'm differently out on different fronts. I'm not out to my immediate
> blood family, for the most part, although I'm strongly considering
> changing that soon. I'm "passively out" at work, by which I mean that I
> put photos of all my partners on my desk and I'll talk about them
> (usually by name) in conversations, but I don't go out of my way to
> bring it up, and because of the limited social dynamic at work, only a
> handful of people have ever asked. Those who have, I've talked to about
> it openly, and I've never run into any problems.
>
> All my friends and social contacts, though, I'm very open with and most
> of them have met all my partners, etc. They've all been very cool and
> open about it and generally invite all of us who are local or who could
> be expected to come to their social events, etc.
> ...
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Author: 2is4square2is4square Date: Sep 17, 2008 17:44
On Sep 17, 11:24 am, Rob Wynne america.net> wrote:> Irfon-Kim Ahmad ambienautica.com> wrote:>> Some people on here are very out on all fronts, and mostly I've heard
>> from them that most people have been accepting. The most common
>> reaction seems to be, "I couldn't do that, but hey, if it works for you,
>> more power to you."
>
>> I'm differently out on different fronts. I'm not out to my immediate
>> blood family, for the most part, although I'm strongly considering
>> changing that soon. I'm "passively out" at work, by which I mean that I
>> put photos of all my partners on my desk and I'll talk about them
>> (usually by name) in conversations, but I don't go out of my way to
>> bring it up, and because of the limited social dynamic at work, only a
>> handful of people have ever asked. Those who have, I've talked to about
>> it openly, and I've never run into any problems.
>
>> All my friends and social contacts, though, I'm very open with and most
>> of them have met all my partners, etc. They've all been very cool and
>> open about it and generally invite all of us who are local or who could
>> be expected to come to their social events, etc. ...
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Author: Serene VannoySerene Vannoy Date: Sep 18, 2008 08:05
2is4square wrote:
> Greetings Everybody,
>
> I'm new to the group and after reading many posts and seeing so many
> people "out there" I'm kind of surprised that there's so much openness
> and candor. Although this way of life seems completely natural to me,
> my sense is that it's still "fringe" to most of the world and that
> exposing one's poly-ways might have some significant risks (jobs and
> otherwise).
Depends. I have always been out at work (both as queer and as poly), and
it's never been a problem, but I live in California, and I have never
had a job as a preschool teacher or anything, where people might be
trying to force me out of my job when they find out about my sexual and
relationship orientations.
>
> Are people generally finding acceptance out there when the "come out?"
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Author: Serene VannoySerene Vannoy Date: Sep 18, 2008 08:07
Chickpea wrote:
> In alt.polyamory, (Irfon-Kim Ahmad) wrote in
> TEKSAVVY.COM>::
> >>> Greetings Everybody,
>>>
>>> I'm new to the group and after reading many posts and seeing so many
>>> people "out there" I'm kind of surprised that there's so much openness
>>> and candor. Although this way of life seems completely natural to me,
>>> my sense is that it's still "fringe" to most of the world and that
>>> exposing one's poly-ways might have some significant risks (jobs and
>>> otherwise).
>>>
>>> Are people generally finding acceptance out there when the "come out?"
>> Some people on here are very out on all fronts, and mostly I've heard
>>from them that most people have been accepting. The most common
>> reaction seems to be, "I couldn't do that, but hey, if it works for you,
>> more power to you."
> ...
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Author: Steve PopeSteve Pope Date: Sep 18, 2008 08:23
Serene Vannoy serenepages.org> wrote:
>I am so irritated when people equate revealing one's orientation without
>being directly asked with "pushing it in people's faces" or being
>militant. Is my boss a militant heterosexual because he wears a wedding
>ring? When my other boss goes to pick up her husband at the car dealer
>because he's stranded, is she pushing her sex life in my face?
Revealing that you are vegetarian can get you called "militant".
It's a hell of a lot better than being called, say, "conformist".
S.
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Author: AquaAqua Date: Sep 18, 2008 11:02
Serene Vannoy wrote:
> Chickpea wrote:
>> In alt.polyamory, (Irfon-Kim Ahmad) wrote in
>> TEKSAVVY.COM>::
>>>>>> Greetings Everybody,
>>>>
>>>> I'm new to the group and after reading many posts and seeing so many
>>>> people "out there" I'm kind of surprised that there's so much openness
>>>> and candor. Although this way of life seems completely natural to me,
>>>> my sense is that it's still "fringe" to most of the world and that
>>>> exposing one's poly-ways might have some significant risks (jobs and
>>>> otherwise).
>>>>
>>>> Are people generally finding acceptance out there when the "come out?"
>>> Some people on here are very out on all fronts, and mostly I've heard
>>> from them that most people have been accepting. The most common
>>> reaction seems to be, "I couldn't do that, but hey, if it works for
>>> you, more power to you." ...
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Author: Karl KleinpasteKarl Kleinpaste Date: Sep 18, 2008 13:45
> Revealing that you are vegetarian can get you called "militant".
Some years ago, when I learned that a co-worker was vegetarian, I asked,
"Is that an ethical choice, a religious obligation, or a dietary
necessity?" We had a really nice discussion about it after that.
--karl,
meatitarian
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