> On Jul 15, 12:32 pm, greasethew...@yahoo.com wrote:
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>> On Jul 14, 9:18 am, "bigflet...@gmail.com" gmail.com>
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>>> On Jul 12, 10:24 am, greasethew...@yahoo.com wrote:

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>>>> On 11 Juli, 09:53, "bigflet...@gmail.com" gmail.com>
>>>> wrote:> Too simple?

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>>>>> Regardless of the context, whether as the observer, participator or
>>>>> instigator, it expresses a wish that the specific events had not have
>>>>> happened.

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>>>>> If that is not fantasy , what is.?

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>>>>> BOfL

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>>>> It can be an expression of a reaction that is present and real.

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>>> Reactive, like the autonomous nerve system.Real but not much to do
>>> with conscious awareness. The understanding that all experiences are
>>> valid. That there are no mistakes.

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>>> So many people lock themselves in a self created prison because they
>>> are too busy apologising, or regret not doing so. It can become quite
>>> malevolent.

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>>> BOfL

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>> 'Can' being the operative word. Regret and guilt are not the same
>> thing. I do think guilt is worshipped as love in our society and that
>> many of the best are bogged down with it. But I have certainly felt
>> sorry for something I have done. I am not, in this state, fantasizing
>> about undoing it or thinking that my regret is 'making up for it'.
>> Regret is simply another feeling that, in your system, it seems,
>> should also not be seen as a mistake.- Hide quoted text -

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> I understand completely what you are saying.
> Im taking it deeper, in the sense that I also understand that every
> event has a purpose, so overall,at the deepest level, Im not sorry for
> anything that happens.
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> To 'regret' is a step to an acknowledgment to yourself that you now
> 'know better'. Completion is 'putting it right'. The experience that
> comes with "balancing the books", ironically, validates 'regret', but
> just as a step.This "step" soon dissapears, and no mistake :-)
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> I would also humbly suggest that this understanding is not easily
> recognised by those who are trying to develop themselves at others
> expense.
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> Years ago I would have said "Im sorry to say that this understanding"
> etc etc :-).
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> BOfL