On Jul 15, 12:32Â pm, greasethew...@
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> On Jul 14, 9:18 am, "bigflet...@
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>>> On Jul 12, 10:24 am, greasethew...@
yahoo.com wrote:
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>>> On 11 Juli, 09:53, "bigflet...@
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>>> wrote:> Too simple?>
>>>> Regardless of the context, whether as the observer, participator or
>>>> instigator, it expresses a wish that the specific events  had not have
>>>> happened.
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>>>> If that is not fantasy , what is.?
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>>>> BOfL
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>>> It can be an expression of a reaction that is present and real.
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>> Reactive, like the autonomous nerve system.Real but not much to do
>> with conscious awareness. The understanding that all experiences are
>> valid. That there are no mistakes.
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>> So many people lock themselves in a self created prison because they
>> are too busy apologising, or regret not doing so. It can become quite
>> malevolent.
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>> BOfL
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> 'Can' being the operative word. Â Regret and guilt are not the same
> thing. Â I do think guilt is worshipped as love in our society and that
> many of the best are bogged down with it. Â But I have certainly felt
> sorry for something I have done. Â I am not, in this state, fantasizing
> about undoing it or thinking that my regret is 'making up for it'.
> Regret is simply another feeling that, in your system, it seems,
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I understand completely what you are saying.
Im taking it deeper, in the sense that I also understand that every
event has a purpose, so overall,at the deepest level, Im not sorry for
anything that happens.
To 'regret' is a step to an acknowledgment to yourself that you now
'know better'. Completion is 'putting it right'. The experience that
comes with "balancing the books", ironically, validates 'regret', but
just as a step.This "step" soon dissapears, and no mistake :-)
I would also humbly suggest that this understanding is not easily
recognised by those who are trying to develop themselves at others
expense.
Years ago I would have said "Im sorry to say that this understanding"
etc etc :-).
BOfL
