> CBORG3 sipped some tea and clacked out:
>

>> What if you had a GOOD dictionary?

>
> you'd be part of a game something was playing on you:
>
> "Shock is the first stage. It is accompanied by disbelief and
> numbness.
>
> Denial follows quickly, crying "I don't believe it," or "It can't be."
>
> Bargaining is your promise that "I'll be so very good that maybe I can
> wake up and find that it isn't so. I'll do all the right things if
> only...."
>
> Guilt is painful and hard to deal with. This is when one says over and
> over, "If only I had..." or "If only I had not..." This is a normal
> feeling and ultimately it may be solved by stating, "I'm a human being
> and I gave the best and worst of me to my friend (child, husband,
> etc...) and what he or she does with that is his or her
> responsibility.
>
> Anger is another big factor which seems to be necessary in order to
> face the reality of life and then to get beyond it. We must all heal
> in our own ways. Anger is a natural stage through which we must pass.
> Your anger at your deceased loved one may even make you feel guilty,
> or it may be because your own life continues whereas your friend's
> life is over.
>
> Depression is a stage of grief that comes and goes. Knowing this, be
> prepared to give yourself time to heal. Resignation is a late stage.
> It comes when finally you accept the truth.
>
> Acceptance and hope! Understand that you will never be the same but
> your life can go on to find meaning and purpose."
>
> HTH