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> "Robibnikoff"
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>>> "Robibnikoff"
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>>> news:65u9rvF2ide7kU1@mid.individual.net...>>>>
>>>> "Suzanne"
flash.net> wrote in message>>
>> snip
>>>>> Oh my gosh, Robyn. That's awful. How does it make
>>>>> me feel?
>>>>
>>>> Not much. He was very sick, both mentally and physically, for quite
>>>> some time and wanted to die. So he took himself out. Frankly, it was a
>>>> relief that it was all over. I wasn't very close to the man and after
>>>> he died, I found out that he was a serial adulterer. Being a airline
>>>> pilot, he apparently fucked all sorts of women all over the world. How
>>>> charming. Even more amusing, he turned out that I was the only one in
>>>> the family who didn't know! Talk about feeling like an idiot.
>>>>
>>> I guess you did feel like that.
>>
>> Well, yeah, that's what I just said. Did you think I was lying or
>> sometthing?
>>
> I did believe you.
Shoot, I would hope so.
>>
>>>> snip
>>>>
>>>> Don't feel grief for me. I really don't care that he's dead,
>>>> especially since I found out what an asshole he really was. Not to
>>>> mention, that I recently became reunited with my biological father (I'm
>>>> adopted), so it looks like I've got a spare.
>>>>
>>> It's interesting that you found your biological
>>> father. I hope that works well for you.
>>
>> Well, apparently he's an alcoholic with anger management issues (hey, so
>> was my adoptive father! He had mental problems as well), so I wouldn't
>> count on it. I talked to him on the phone for about a hour a couple of
>> weeks ago, but I don't think it's going to be anywhere beyond that.
>>
> Robyn, something might be interesting for you to
> ask him about is your family history. It would be
> especially informative if he could tell you your
> family's medical history.
Been there, did that. You might have noticed above that I said that I spoke
to him for almost an hour. We weren't talking about the weather.
You could need to know
> that at some point.
Gee, fucking really?!?!? Wow, I've only known I've been adopted for almost
47 effing years! It never occured to me that I might need to know my
medical history. Wow, Suzanne, thanks for the heads up!
Okay, obviously, that was sarcasm. Believe ME, I am WELL aware of the need
for medical history. It's always been such a thrill not to be able to
answer any of those medical history questions at the doctor's office. Not
to mention that my brother (no blood relation, also adopted) could have
avoided having a heart attack at age 36.
Don't worry, Suzanne. I know ALL about being adopted, the secrecy, the
occasional lies (and yes, my birthmother totally lied to the adoption agency
about my birthfather), etc., etc. I've read books and even went to a
support group. There's nothing you can tell me that I don't already know.
It's also fun to see what
> countries you are descended from and what they
> were all like, if he has any relatives. In fact, it
> seems that it might be interesting to know some
> of our family members that you never met. Maybe
> you have some cousins that are interesting.
Hon, I've been through this already. I tracked down 200 years of history on
my birthmother's side (I have been in contact with her for the past almost 7
years) and now, thanks to a half-sis who is a geneologist, have 300 years of
history on my birthdad's side. Shit, John Adams is one of my ancestors.
>>>>> Robyn, I don't know what to say. The one that we
>>>>> knew that did this, I wanted to get mad at for it,
>>>>> after he was gone. I had to just one day forgive
>>>>> him, and I just believe most of all, that he was a
>>>>> victim of depression.
>>>>
>>>> What's to forgive? I'm glad he did it - If I had been able to take
>>>> care of it for him, I would have done so in a heartbeat. So one should
>>>> have to live like that.
>>>>
>>>> And he left me a HUGE inheritance. Can't beat that with a stick ;)
>>>>
>>> You sound pretty tough, Robyn.
>>
>> That's the way my adoptive mom raised me to be. The really funny thing
>> was that she hated the way I turned out. Oh well, be careful what you
>> wish for. Now that she has Alzheimer's, she finally likes me as a person.
>> Hey, I'll take what I can get ;)
>>
> Do you have your mother living with you,
Oh, FUCKING HELL NO. I wouldn't have her living me with me ever. I'd end
up smothering her with a pillow.
or does
> she have her own place and with help, if she is that
> advanced with the Altz.?
I'm moving her into an assisted living facility next week.
I've seen a lot of people's
> grown kids that the parents didn't like the way they
> turned out, until they got into a position to know
> their children have a lot more depth to them than
> they could see earlier.
Well, at least I've figured out that the reason why she treated me like shit
from age 13 on is because she was taking out her anger towards her cheating
husband on me. But like I said, it's water under the bridge, and I'm going
to be a millionaire when she croaks, so who cares about the past?
>> Honestly, I'm not that tough. I just don't sweat the small stuff or stew
>> over things that are out of my control. My parents' issues, problems,
>> mental illness, infidelities, etc., don't have anything to do with me.
>> Hell, I just want the dough ;)
>>
> You are wise to not let some things get to you that
> you can't control. That's a good way to be.
Life's short and who wants to waste time like that? I know I don't.
>>> His life sounded really
>>> messed up.
>>
>> Couldn't say - Obviously I didn't know him that well. Let's just say that
>> until his mental illness and physical problems started up in his early
>> 60s, he was having a hell of a good time ;)
>>
>> But he sounds like he planned that you should
>>> have that inheritance.
>>
>> Too bad I have to share it with my no good brother. Oh well.
>>
> He's no good? Why do you say that?
I have my reasons. He's not a bad guy, just self-centered. Has been living
out in Montant since 1977 - Have only seem him a couple of times since.
He's always been very obsessed with his inheritance and asked me repeatedly
if I could find out anything. I'm now well-aware of exactly how much money
there is, but I'm not telling him. He'll have to wait. He was very
concerned about my mother until she started doing the family-gifting
($12,000 a year, tax free). He's gotten $38,000 since last August (my
husband gives him half of his) and I think I've heard from him twice. If he
thinks he's getting anything out of my mother's house (i.e., jewelry,
furniture, paintings, etc.) he's in for a very rude awakening.
The same goes for my mom's sister, who has told me repeatedly that she wants
some of my mother's paintings (she was an artist). Considering what a big
help she's been during this difficult time, I'm going to give her what she
deserves - nothing.
>> Maybe he felt that it would be one
>>> good thing that he had done in his life.
>>
>> Couldn't tell you. And can't ask him, for obvious reasons.
>>
> That's true. Hope you have some good things in
> your life.
Oh don't worry - I have more than a lot of people I know.
--
Robyn
Resident Witchypoo
BAAWA Knight!
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