On 16 Sep, 23:02, "Scott H" wrote:

to be perfectly honest I goofed up on that cos I hid a
lot of my sensitivities and romance because I was too
frightened of a rejection...which is a pity and they do
happen, some people have a tougher time defending
the love they have and are unable to share their feelings
or are never, or have never been so fortunate to have a
good old pal to rely upon to share their memories and
true sentiments. In this day and age I have met more
people what want to take the dream out of your hands
at the next opportunity and trash you, or...worse still
(which happens ocassionally) tell a girlfriend everything
about the person, ie relationship you love and care about
and she take the initiative and run off with YOUR men/man
lover or ideas. Only if you happen to like the idea of adulterous
affairs, secretly hate someone or worse, would anyone
do that, but they will do so and how! we ought to respect
other peoples monogomous affairs, and their rights, also
their feelings and profound lonliness and sadness when
the person you lose cannot easily be replaced, and often
never.

Maybe theres a faith which does its utmost to preserve the
sanctity of marriages? of fidelity? of commending long lasting
partnerships, essentially I'd have said the once more mature
attitude to ummmm...'marriage'? where everyone did their
best to encourage strong and lasting partnerships which
in turn form a strong foundation for communities !
encouragement for parenting in our society which is
here in UK is dwindling, usurped by a rapacious attitude to
value and to commodity, the wealth is in our communities and
people our children and their hearts.

I know many people enjoy the idea of 'liberated sex' of
swappage and emotional intrigues, but many many others
would have preferred a single happy marriage,and I don't know
know if it is so, but arranged marriages definitely worked
here in the past. What a pity I never had that opportunity!
I thought that 'liberation' was the DIY matchmaking opportunity
to find someone whos qualities and simplicity and parenting skills
whatever were mutually exclusive...and afterwards people just
settled into happy lifestyle raising twins whatever. I always
tried my best to remain on the best terms with previous dates or
a lover and delighted that they had married and had kids...
but other people never have that respect for me.

I don't bother with a lot of the notion of 'liberation' its extremely
complex and so much of it it a waste of your sex drive and
emotional investment on road to rearing family. If you happen to
be heterosexual and enjoy females more than your male collegues
for instance, or if you're finding trouble finding good partners maybe
seeking some arranged marriage is more fruitfully time invested,

I'm not alone in that romance within career marriages between those
who have had a taste for independence can improve if you happen
to sleep in separate rooms or have a separate bed only at bedtime !
and never ever sleep with 2 relatives on the same occassion

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