You know, John.....this is the crux of everything. You tell women you
are "divorced". They ASSUME you are no longer married...and are
available (as you present yourself to be).
Any man with balls bigger than a field mouse knows that the proper thing
to do when blatantly coming onto a single woman is to casually mention
early on if he is married or not. Didn't anybody ever teach you this
social etiquette? You consider yourself to be a super-stud and don't
know the BASICS of interacting with women. At least the decent ones.
Nothing about you made me more FURIOUS than to find out you had LIED to
me for nearly TWO years about your "housemate"=Joey. In every way you
led me to believe she was like a "roommate" and a mere "friend". You
even told me she wanted to get married but she was too bossy and always
telling you what to do. You weren't intending to get married again.
OK...that told me something about your "intentions" (in case I might be
interested). You told me she moved in and out every other week or so.
You told me AD NAUSEUM about at least a dozen women you had sex and
affairs with while "housemate/bosswoman" was continuing to live with
you. I ASSUMED that she really didn't care as you were just "living
together" but you were single and free to screw other women (you call it
"date").
There came a time when this relationship with "Joey" (you finally told
me her name) became puzzling. It seemed odd and wasn't making any sense
at all. You were living like a married couple it seemed to me. When I
got fed up (again) with your jerking me around and being evasive, I
started to put the pressure on and told you I expected some ANSWERS and
you told me she was moving out for good this time. You had earlier told
me about "recommitment". You were always evasive and cryptic about your
"housemate", while trying to get me to meet you in Southern California
or offering to ride way up here. Making suggestive remarks. Often
saying things like "If you and I married, you would be miserable" I had
no doubt all those months that you were a single man, twice divorced.
But what was the deal with "Joey"? I pushed too far and you ROARED back
at me: She is a friend. A good friend. Not a lover. We are
splitting.
OK...she's not a lover and is leaving. Just a friend, your "bestest"
friend, a pal, the Merry Widow. I figured she likely was a widow you
befriended and she stayed with you as a roommate. Probably some
horizontal recreation knowing how you never miss an "opportunity".
Fast forward to you trying to convince me to meet you. We talked for a
couple of days about Joey. I wasn't about to meet you if you had to
leave at a certain time to get back home to her. That felt to me like
you weren't exactly "free" and I didn't want to meet anyone who
wasn't...unless I knew the deal.
You assured me she was GONE...in spite of your sudden closeness the last
couple of weeks before she left. That seemed ODD, too. Ok...you
claimed there were NO OTHER WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE so I felt more
comfortable about a brief "date" with you.
It was one thing to discover why you stood me up and ruined 3 days of my
trip, but it was something else in late May to stumble upon the owner of
your house as being "Claudia Marzec". Who in hell is THAT? I don't
know why I decided to check out
Reunion.com. = Claudia "Joey" Marzec.
WHAT????? Joey owned the HOUSE you said was YOURS and she just lived
with you as a roommate?
Off I went to
Classmates.com. My God...she was listed as Claudia "Joey"
Marzec-Gilmer.
You have since claimed I found this out by stealing mail from your box
or breaking into your house. See how you throw vicious and slanderous
shit around about me that is totally WRONG and UNTRUE? How dare you
tell all this crap to the police. You should be arrested for filing
false claims.
Why did you LIE to me for years about being married to her? I've seen
about 30 pictures of her...many of them are with you. Even pictures of
her in bed. You often take pictures of women in bed just before you
crawl in with them, don't you? Shame on you for putting that stuff on
the internet for the whole world to see.
Why was it not my business to know that the Merry Widow, your pal, your
friend, your bestest friend, your housemate, Bosswoman and SWMBO'd was
your WIFE? You got married in Las Vegas.
Right there, that was all I needed to know about you as a person, as a
man, as a "friend". You are deliberately deceitful and come on to women
under FALSE PRETENSES. Right now you are advertising in personal ads
for a "wench" or you "need a woman bad" and you state that you are
"divorced". WRONG. You are MARRIED to Joey right now. And Deborah is
your Concubine. If it was a "love affair", she'd be your Mistress. You
don't LOVE her. You are USING her. Does she know that?
You are about as LOW as a man can be. And you don't deserve more than
the LOWEST kind of woman. Unfortunately, you are able to charm quite a
few that are definitely BETTER THAN YOU. I have decided that Deborah is
too good for you. And she's not much...anymore. She was cute at least
one day.
My scorn and disgust for you knows no bounds. More than one man has
known the wrath of a woman who lied to her about being single and she
later found out he was married. How cowardly is that? It's not about
what you are "willing to tell about your personal life"...it's about
common decency and character and integrity. How can you possibly
interact in a positive way with anybody when you start right in being
deceitful and lying...and keep it up for two years until you are
*caught*?
God. Is there ANYTHING about you that isn't reprehensible and
despicable?
It's not that it mattered to me if you were married; it's that you LIED
to me....for years...and still would be if I hadn't stumbled onto the
truth myself. You LIE about everything...absolutely everything. You
are mentally ill. No normal person does that. You lie even when you
don't need to....to keep in practice??
Now GO AWAY and GET OUT OF MY LIFE ONCE AND FOR ALL. You make me SICK.
You are REPULSIVE to me. You have been a WASTE of my time for 6 years.
I lost my precious cat because of you. I ignored cancer in my entire
body because of you. You are and have been a T O X I C presence in my
life as well as EVERY woman's life who has ever gotten mixed up with
you. You excel at ONE thing....being a World-Class LIAR.
Pick up your medal and then go sit in the corner. Put on your dunce
cap. Don't get back to me.
Karen/snoshoo
