> Looks like I got into some small degree of trouble. DW is said to die
> soon so I asked her mom what time would be a good time for me to drive
> her to DW (her daughter) so she can see her one more time. Was told by
> her and SIL that no mother should see her daughter die and how could I
> even ask to bring her to see her. Besides she is old now and how dare
> I expect her to deal with this kind of sh*t
>
> I just feel if one of my kids is going to be in that position I am
> going to be there no matter what (s)he looks like and what the
> prognosis is. But then maybe I am weird. MIL has had a history dealing
> with things by not dealing with them - kinda following "if I pretend
> it isn't so then it isn't so." But then its your daughter lying there
> with days to live. Well she might not even know you are visiting - but
> then who knows. SIL visited her and told me that she told her to get
> it over with already as she is putting a strain on everyone. Well in
> this case I hope DW was oblivious and did not hear.
>
> But I digress question is. Daughter is dying - do you visit or do you ...

>
>Looks like I got into some small degree of trouble. DW is said to die
>soon so I asked her mom what time would be a good time for me to drive
>her to DW (her daughter) so she can see her one more time. Was told by
>her and SIL that no mother should see her daughter die and how could I
>even ask to bring her to see her. Besides she is old now and how dare
>I expect her to deal with this kind of sh*t
>
>I just feel if one of my kids is going to be in that position I am
>going to be there no matter what (s)he looks like and what the
>prognosis is. But then maybe I am weird. MIL has had a history dealing
>with things by not dealing with them - kinda following "if I pretend
>it isn't so then it isn't so." But then its your daughter lying there
>with days to live. Well she might not even know you are visiting - but
>then who knows. SIL visited her and told me that she told her to get
>it over with already as she is putting a strain on everyone. Well in
>this case I hope DW was oblivious and did not hear.
> ...

>Looks like I got into some small degree of trouble. DW is said to die
>soon so I asked her mom what time would be a good time for me to drive
>her to DW (her daughter) so she can see her one more time...

> But I digress question is. Daughter is dying - do you visit or do you
> stay home so you can "remember her the way she was and don't have to
> have an ugly picture in your head"

>
>dp17@hush.ai wrote:
>

>> But I digress question is. Daughter is dying - do you visit or do you
>> stay home so you can "remember her the way she was and don't have to
>> have an ugly picture in your head"

>
> Plenty of people would choose to visit (I certainly
>would, and have, though not with my own child, thank goodness),
>so it clearly wasn't inappropriate for you to offer to enable
>her to do that.

> In article comcast.com>, Ericka Kammerer
> says...

>> dp17@hush.ai wrote:
>>

>>> But I digress question is. Daughter is dying - do you visit or do you
>>> stay home so you can "remember her the way she was and don't have to
>>> have an ugly picture in your head"

>> Plenty of people would choose to visit (I certainly
>> would, and have, though not with my own child, thank goodness),
>> so it clearly wasn't inappropriate for you to offer to enable
>> her to do that.

>
> Yes I agree your offer was perfectly appropriate, Ranger.
>
> I just think you have to respect the answer.

>> dp17@hush.ai wrote:

>>> But I digress question is. Daughter is dying
>>> - do you visit or do you

> Yes I agree your offer was perfectly appropriate, Ranger.

> Looks like I got into some small degree of trouble. DW is said to die
> soon so I asked her mom what time would be a good time for me to drive
> her to DW (her daughter) so she can see her one more time. Was told by
> her and SIL that no mother should see her daughter die and how could I
> even ask to bring her to see her. Besides she is old now and how dare
> I expect her to deal with this kind of sh*t
>
> I just feel if one of my kids is going to be in that position I am
> going to be there no matter what (s)he looks like and what the
> prognosis is. But then maybe I am weird. MIL has had a history dealing
> with things by not dealing with them - kinda following "if I pretend
> it isn't so then it isn't so." But then its your daughter lying there
> with days to live. Well she might not even know you are visiting - but
> then who knows. SIL visited her and told me that she told her to get
> it over with already as she is putting a strain on everyone. Well in
> this case I hope DW was oblivious and did not hear.
>
> But I digress question is. Daughter is dying - do you visit or do you
> stay home so you can "remember her the way she was and don't have to ...

> Looks like I got into some small degree of trouble. DW is said to die
> soon so I asked her mom what time would be a good time for me to drive
> her to DW (her daughter) so she can see her one more time. Was told by
> her and SIL that no mother should see her daughter die and how could I
> even ask to bring her to see her. Besides she is old now and how dare
> I expect her to deal with this kind of sh*t
>
> I just feel if one of my kids is going to be in that position I am
> going to be there no matter what (s)he looks like and what the
> prognosis is. But then maybe I am weird. MIL has had a history dealing
> with things by not dealing with them - kinda following "if I pretend
> it isn't so then it isn't so." But then its your daughter lying there
> with days to live. Well she might not even know you are visiting - but
> then who knows. SIL visited her and told me that she told her to get
> it over with already as she is putting a strain on everyone. Well in
> this case I hope DW was oblivious and did not hear.
>
> But I digress question is. Daughter is dying - do you visit or do you ...