> On 19 Jun, 06:48, "Tom" comcast.net> wrote:
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>> "Executive Function" hotmail.com> wrote in message

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>>> On 18 Jun, 17:01, "Tom" comcast.net> wrote:

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>>>> Actually she has lots of issues with expressing her anger *effectively*.
>>>> The way she does it now is very self-destructive. Her maladaptive
>>>> expressions of her anger is the primary reason for all the pathetic stuff
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>>>Let me recall - we need anger to be able to stand up for upselves.  A
>>>bit pointless directed at someone who never rises to the bait though,
>>>so if it doesn't hit the mark it just burns her up because she can't
>>>control it?  So - it is usually screened off?  She's just expressing
>>>it because she's been prodded into addressing issues she'd rather not
>>>address, like feelings of inferiority you evoke in her?

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>> She's wallowing in her anger.  She cherishes it like an addict cherishes her
>> drug.  She feeds it and cares for it like the child she's never had.  Her
>> preoccupation with it is so pervasive that she cannot even adequately attend
>> to the needs of her pets and certainly can't do a decent job at work.  And
>> look how crazy-sounding it is.  Every new rant exposes some new unsavory
>> fantasy she's been creating for herself to seethe at.

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>> She also seems to have the bizarre delusion that, despite how completely
>> fucking loony she sounds, people will, for some unknown reason, believe her
>> and take advice from her.  And even *send her money*!

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> It's sort of like the wife who feels angry that her husband is late
> home for dinner, and fantasizes he's been in a car wreck, isn't it?
> In the fantasy she's the concerned wife who is worried about her
> husband and wants to check the hospitals and phone the emergency
> services to get him assistance, but really, she's just mad at him for
> letting her down.  Except with Becky it's gotten completely out of
> control.  She imagined Mika coming to a sticky end after she felt
> angry with her, but then tried justify to herself that she was still a
> good person because she was just trying to earn her for her own good.
> Her anger owns her.  Infact, it's completely destroying her life and
> her happiness.  That's so sad Tom!  I hope she goes to a therapist and
> works with them to learn what's at the root of her anger, and get a
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