> Tom wrote:

>>
>> "catherine yronwode" herb-magic.com> wrote in message
>> news:46377ABF.1A721282@herb-magic.com...

>>>
>>> "Too much for her to bear" is outlandishly innacurate, but "cognitive
>>> dissonance" rings the bell, Mika. A slightly less subjective term for
>>> "cognitive dissonance" is "two-facedness."

>>
>> Actually that would be a much more highly subjective term, since it
>> presumes
>> that what you see is all there is. But then again, you presume that
>> pretty
>> much all the time.
>>

>>> As i said, Tom's sudden
>>> submerging of his usual cruelty in favour of congenial jollity reminded
>>> me precisely of the delightful social bohommie i used to see offered up
>>> by my rapist step-father.

>>
>> Your flashbacks are also highly subjective.
>>

>>> Tom is not consistently a "bad" persona in his social beneer. He is,
>>> rather, two-faced.

>>
>> Or many-faceted, to be less subjective. Not to mention less neutotically
>> judgmental.
>>

>>> You seem to advocate that this is an intentional "trickster" facade
>>> that
>>> Tom creates, but you have no evidence to support that premise.

>>
>> And you have no evidence to contradict it either. Unless, of course,
>> you're
>> a mind-reader. Are you a mind-reader, Cat?
>>

>>> In other words, all we really have is the online presentation of a
>>> person who acts cruel at some times and cordial at other times. The
>>> cause of the two-facedness is not known.

>>
>> But the false dichotomy that one must be either one or the other all the
>> time and that it is hypocrisy to appear to have both traits is
>> irrational.
>> Then again, all you're doing here is expressing how you feel, not what
>> you
>> can rationally defend as an accurate representation of reality.
>>

>>> Your premise -- that Tom to be a "trickster" -- is an unsupported reach
>>> on your part.
>>>
>>> Likewise, my premise -- that Tom is a hypocite (like the socially
>>> cordial raping step-father to whom i comapred him) -- is also
>>> unsupported.

>>
>> But we know which one *you* prefer and why. I guess you just need all
>> that
>> hatred just to keep yourself from drowning in your own self-pity.

>
> This was too much of a limply "Great Tom Knows All About *Y-O-U*" post
> to merit a reply.