On Sep 8, 1:51Â pm, Executive Function wrote:
>
> no matter how intellegent I seem to be ordinarily
> then I have to give over my
> independance and decision making sometimes.
You often rave about your intelligence here. No one gives a shit.
Intelligence is as irrelevant as artistic ability, sexual prowess,
income, physical appearance, or any other personal characteristic.
What matters is having the will to look at oneself honestly, having
the strength to resist slipping into delusional fantasies, and being
committed to doing whatever personal work you find that needs to be
done.
Additionally: you are attached to a self-image that is based on being
a "abnormally highly intelligent person", so when you do things that
don't conform to your image of how a highly intelligent person behaves
(such as needing to be committed), your world falls apart. So, let's
look at a couple of the problems with this line of thought: First,
it's not clear that you're all that much more intelligent than the
average person to begin with: fantasy #1. Next, even if you are of
extremely high intelligence, you think that has relevance to other
aspects of your life, eg you think being intelligent is equivalent to
being able to take care of yourself: fantasy #2.
If you have the strength and will to face just these two fantasies
alone, your feelings about yourself and reality would dramatically
improve.
> To be a practical aspie - I have to take this shit into account. Â If
> people would give me advice while taking this into account like I have
> to - I might get much better advice i think.
Then stop posting to alt.magick altogether, and only post to aspie
groups. If you keep posting to alt.magick, then stop complaining that
we just don't understand. Otherwise, people will lose interest in
wasting time and energy trying to help you here.
> I've met a lot of aspies that stay with thier parents and never move
> out of thier own personal comfort zone wey beyond the norm, and others
> who just put up with the overload and the meltdowns and try and 'go
> for it', whatever 'it' is. Â
Yeah, so? Asperger's includes a wide spectrum of abilities and needs,
just like the non-Asperger's world. As I said in my other post to you
today, you have to figure out where you are on the spectrum, and then
deal with it. You can't claim total independence one day and then use
disability as an excuse the next day, or else you lose all
credibility. You'd simply be a hypocrite.
For example, I don't fight for equal treatment in the workplace and
then back out of doing field work because I'm menstruating. If I'm
bleeding and I feel like crap and cramps make it difficult to stand
up, let alone do any real physical labor, then I take a sick day just
like a guy would if he had the flu. If I don't have that option, then
I just shut up and stick it out as best I can, just like a guy would
if he had the flu. I never ever say "but I'm bleeeeding! You can't
possible understaaaaaaaand what it's like!" Whether or not other
people 'get it' is irrelevant, all that matters is my ability to work
within the structure and expectations of my job. If I can't, then
it's up to me to find a new job. Just like it's up to you to change
your situation if it's not working for you. The reasons why are
irrelevant, your abilities and limitations are irrelevant. If
something doesn't work, find or create something else that does.
That's part of what it means to be an independent adult. If you are
incapable of doing this, then face the fact that you are incapable of
being an independent adult, and have yourself committed.
