> "mika" wrote
>

>> On Jan 10, 2:02 pm, Absorbed wrote:

>

>>> 3. After years of learning to play chess you may have pride in your
>>> skill, but after continuously losing against a fast-improving beginner
>>> this self-identity or expectation of winning is dashed. You practice as
>>> hard as you can, but you still lose. You may try to comfort yourself by
>>> rationalising and distorting reality by blaming the losses on mistakes,
>>> or perhaps you give up chess completely. Surrender is about
>>> acknowledging that your expectations, hopes, and rationalisations are
>>> irrelevant to the reality that you continuously lose. It's about
>>> accepting the disappointment that you're worse at chess and the lack of
>>> control you have over reality.

>

>> Yet 'accepting disappointment' over losing still implies you are
>> attached to the outcome of the game. In this case, it seems that
>> surrender is about letting go of any care about winning or losing
>> altogether, and simply enjoying the act of playing the game itself ...