On Mar 17, 5:08 pm, HG wrote:

Not everything is a problem that needs to be solved, you know.
Oftentimes the distress at being frightened is a lot more debilitating
than the fear itself is.

"The only thing to fear is fear itself" is one of the stupidest ideas
out there. Lions might eat you; being frightened of lions is never
going to hurt you.

So you get frightened sometimes, for reasons you don't always
understand. Big fucking deal. The fear itself is likely causing you
far fewer problems than the simple fact you're so freaked out by being
frightened. Being frightened doesn't make you any less of a human
being, and there's no shame in anything that happens inside your head
(or outside it, for that matter), so just stop thinking that there's
something wrong with you because it happens. This in itself will
likely to most of the way towards "solving the problem."

You can't sensibly be surprised at the fact that your fears freak you
out if you keep poking at them all the time. Just let them be for a
while, and they'll probably soon get bored. Think of your irrational
fears as a leaky tap; slightly annoying, but nothing to get too
excited about as long as you don't work yourself up into a fret about
it or go out of your way to try and convince yourself that it isn't
leaky at all.

It's your reaction to the fears that are at the root of this
"problem," not the fears themselves. Accept the fact that you get
frightened sometimes, and that there's nothing necessarily wrong with
that. All that stuff is just your mind working, it isn't you doing
anything.

Erwin Hessle, 8=3