On 16 Mar, 21:43, HG wrote:
> The Speaking Clock
live.co.uk> writes:
>
>
>
>
>>> On 15 Mar, 22:20, HG wrote:
>>> Hello again,
>
>>> I feel I'm in the middle of some kind of breakthrough, regarding my
>>> understanding of myself and my behavior. Â I'm starting to get a grip on
>>> my irrational fears and hangups about a lot of things, but there's still
>>> a lot of puzzling to do.
>
>>> What I'd like to ask is a fundamental, age old question:
>
>>> I know that I should do some thing, and I know from experience doing it
>>> would bring me joy and relief. Â Still I don't do it, but procrastinate
>>> instead.
>
>>> How would you begin to crack that nut?
>
>>> Could it be my old demons in a new disguise?
>>> Just a force of habit?
>>> Something else?
>
>>> What did *you* do if you faced something like this in your past?
>
>>> Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Thank you,
>>> Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â HG
>
>> Hi HG:)
>
> Hi Speaking Clock :) Â And thanks for answering.
>
>> Are you sure you are really procrastinating, or could it be that you
>> (or someone else) have expectations of you that you feel you are not
>> fulfilling?
>
> You're right on the money here, but that one is a demon I've already
> recognized and know how to deal with.
>
> It's name was: "If I'm so smart and talented, then why are parts of my life
> so fucked up?".
>
> The answer to that dilemma was: "What makes me think those things are
> mutually exclusive? Â I can be smart and talented in some things, yet stupid
> and incompetent in others."
>
> (I was about to write more, but replying to you got me thinking. Â I'll think
> some things through, then return to the conversation.)
>
>> People who are more sensitive to sensory stimulie can
>> often be quite overwhelmed by joy and relief, and just need to appoach
>> these things according to their own timing when they are happy to do
>> so. Â Everyone has different levels of response to sensory stimulie so
>> when it is right and good for you will be different for others.
>> Everyone finds their own balance between control and release. Â If you
>> accept that about yourself then unrealistic expectations and
>> accompanying hang ups and giving yourself negative labels will fade.
>
> I don't really understand the "sensitive to sensory stimuli" point, but I do
> understand the unrealistic expectations and negative lables point.
>
> Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â HG- Hide quoted text -
>
> - Show quoted text -
Ah. I have aspergers syndrome HG. Typically when people like us are
babies they do not like to be touched and will scream the place down
when held too long. It's because our sensitivity to being touched is
far more pronounced than in other people.
Imagine stroking two cats. The cat on the left purs. The cat on the
right jumps out of it's skin in shock. Well - I'm the cat who jumps
out of its skin in shock, and when I want to be stroked it's because I
decide and because it's a time I can deal with it. I thought you may
have had a similar reaction, but maybe not. :)))
