Note- your subject line includes "won't WORK on me"
Ya know, it's a classic case of the shoemaker's children.
After work, the work door gets closed, and the "I'm off,
no more of that till tomorrow" chant is being played. In
other words, it's a chore.
And that is a disappointment, and a marker of his
job satisfaction.
There is a saying. "Find something you love to do, and
never have to work a day in your life". Well, he hasn't
found it, and that's a disappointment. Nobody should
have to look forward to Fridays, and dread Mondays.
Life is too precious for that.
When I was doing professional massage, I found that
it really detracted from doing it as a hobby. The people
that knew me had been in the habit of getting shoulders,
backs etc. done, and while I had the business I found
myself mentally rolling my eyes when a friend would
point to her neck. So when I got an "8-5 job", I was
ready to quit the business.
I still do it as a hobby, and I train couples with fibromyalgia
how to do safe and effective massage, but I don't miss the
days of waiting to see if the next client will show up.
And as his girlfriend, I suggest that you avoid the associative
connections with his business. When you are ready for a
massage, I suggest you talk with some of his friends about
your being one of their clients. Otherwise, your situation is
like the police officer that gets home and the spouse wants
the day's activities to be recounted.
Fair enough?
On Apr 14, 10:06 am, tiffanydawn...@
gmail.com wrote:
> Hey everyone,
>
> I'm coming straight to those who would know for some help - my
> boyfriend is a very talented massage therapist, but refuses to do more
> than an occasional neck rub in front of the tv. I prefer Sweedish
> Massage, because I don't know any different, so he's told me that's
> boring and refuses. I've offered to try more intense massages, I just
> require some explanation and warning, because I've always been taught
> that massages are relaxing, not necessarily pain inducing at first. =)
> I've spoken to some of his MT friends who explained more things to me,
> about being trained to do more and having difficulty pulling back and
> doing less, not wanting to disappoint a loved one, etc.
>
> The logical part of me, as the general public, understands that
> totally, makes perfect sense. But the girlfriend in me is really hurt
> and disappointed, because I think of it as a sort of intimate thing,
> I'm not really comfortable with strangers touching me. He's always
> asking what he can do to help me relieve stress and be happy, and
> massage is one of those, but he says no. I'm having a difficult time
> getting past this on the girlfriend level. Has anyone else had
> experience with this? Any suggestions? I'll check back here, or you
> can email me at tiffanydawn...@
yahoo.com. Thanks a million for any
> insight or suggestions!
>
> Tiffany
