Hey everyone,

I'm coming straight to those who would know for some help - my
boyfriend is a very talented massage therapist, but refuses to do more
than an occasional neck rub in front of the tv. I prefer Sweedish
Massage, because I don't know any different, so he's told me that's
boring and refuses. I've offered to try more intense massages, I just
require some explanation and warning, because I've always been taught
that massages are relaxing, not necessarily pain inducing at first. =)
I've spoken to some of his MT friends who explained more things to me,
about being trained to do more and having difficulty pulling back and
doing less, not wanting to disappoint a loved one, etc.

Note- your subject line includes "won't WORK on me"
Ya know, it's a classic case of the shoemaker's children.
After work, the work door gets closed, and the "I'm off,
no more of that till tomorrow" chant is being played. In
other words, it's a chore.
And that is a disappointment, and a marker of his
job satisfaction.
There is a saying. "Find something you love to do, and
never have to work a day in your life". Well, he hasn't
found it, and that's a disappointment. Nobody should
have to look forward to Fridays, and dread Mondays.
Life is too precious for that.
When I was doing professional massage, I found that
it really detracted from doing it as a hobby. The people
that knew me had been in the habit of getting shoulders,
backs etc. done, and while I had the business I found
myself mentally rolling my eyes when a friend would
point to her neck. So when I got an "8-5 job", I was
ready to quit the business.
I still do it as a hobby, and I train couples with fibromyalgia ...

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